I was married to someone for almost 20 years- we divorced when I learned he was a serial cheater. He had always had "issues" but i really thought it was just his personality. Since the break up his stability (me) is gone and he has broken up w his gf that he left me for, lost his business, has serious legal issues. He became increasingly paranoid, delusional and erratic. I tried to help him, because stupid me- I still love him. He ended up being arrested once and held on two 5150s first in feb when neighbors called- and later in July when I called dept of mental health. At that time I got a dv restraining order and finalized the divorce. I was afraid for my kidsto be around him when he is out of control and has violent tendencies. Cops even admitted to me they were afraid of him. So since then he had moved up the coast to get away from our local police who he is convinced have him under surveillance. He had mellowed a bit but was still not quite right. He has been living on savings, which have literally run out. He has also had a heart attack and series if strokes in the interim. He is not employable. He has burned bridges w all friends and family. Now in the past eight days he has exploded again and is now on his second 5150 (psych eval) this week. The previous one ended w him assaulting an officer and going to jail. He has a court date next week. I know all this because his roommate- who I never met b4 called and told me- and said that he can't stay there anymore. Then the psychiatrist called to get information- because I am pretty much the only stable force in his life. They are thinking bipolar 1 or schizophrenia. I am terrified because I know when the 72 is up they are going to give him some meds, pat him on the head and then he will be...homeless? He literally is broke and has nowhere to stay and is creepy/dangerous scary when he is raging. Despite everything, i still love him- and this is still the father of my children...Any suggestions for resources or how best to deal w the situation and help him? Also because he is away and kids only have sporadic supervised phone contact... They are insulated and don't know what is happening w him. They are 17, 13 and 10 and have witnessed earlier behavior, so this wouldn't be a total surprise to them, but do you think I should tell them anything about what is going on or just preserve the peace they have and leave it on a need to know basis?
on Mar. 22, 2013 at 6:06 PM