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My Ex Thinks Im Being Unfair **The Whole Story**

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Ok so I'm planning my sons baptism an all expenses.. my family is also helping me with alot of as well. My ex wants him an his family to go to the celebration after the ceremony. I don't have a problem with all of them coming but i told him in order for them to get invited he has to pay half the expenses. He got all mad an started yelling that i was unfair an selfish an total b*tch because of it. I feel its that he's his son too an if his family wants to come eat an dance at the celebration its only fair that he pays for half it. Why should my family an i put soo much planning an money into this just so he an his family could come an have free food music an drinks without helping out with anything. And if doesn't want to pay for half then well im sorry they are unwelcome.
So am i being unfair? Or reasonable?

**The Whole Story**
When our son was first born my ex ( my husband at the time) that i wanted to baptize our baby. His words were: Fine with me you be in charge of the planning an ill worry about the money. That was all good an dandy for me made me happy. When we split up i told him i still want to Baptise him an if he will still be willing to help. His words were: You can if you want i don't find it important, non of my family is baptized an were all doing just fine, y should i want to invest in something i don't think is important to me nor my family.
So i said: OK that's fine but I'm going to because to me it is important an means alot for me an just the way i was raised. So i start planning for my 47 guests that im having an we're Hispanic an in our culture we are always close with our extended family. Us Mexicans tend to have a big family :)
Anyway so i plan for my family an me. Buying only what i need to buy. I made the invitation myself, i got my cousins making decor, i got my aunts who will be making food, my cousin who is dj will do it for free for me :), got my uncles lending their trucks to haul in tables an chairs, so all is going pretty great...but when my ex came to pick up our son for the day he asked me if he could take our son with him to his family reunion (the day before our baptism) it was fine i had no problem...I blurted out: oh wow that's the day before he gets baptized . Well i guess he told his family an when he came to drop off our son he said: So my family wants to go to his Baptist since they're all goin to be down that weekend.
That is when i got little ticked off an asked him to pay for half since his contains an estimate of 30 ppl. So there's the story
Like come on :/
by on Mar. 23, 2013 at 10:22 PM
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kngarber
by on Mar. 28, 2013 at 2:18 PM
I agreed before the update.
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merinasmommy
by on Mar. 28, 2013 at 2:23 PM
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omg its anD not an go back to school
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Aortiz22
by on Mar. 28, 2013 at 2:53 PM
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I think he should pay. Why are they coming to the celebration if its not important to them? If he wants his family to come party he should help out and pay half of the expenses it shouldn't be up to you especially if he wants his family to come and party. I am Hispanic as well I know how expensive our parties can be and to add on all those people it's going to be more money you have to kick out to make sure everyone eats, drinks and has a good time

Belovedmoonpixi
by Bronze Member on Mar. 29, 2013 at 12:14 AM
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If the baptism isn´t important to him and his family, as he said, then why does it bother him that they can´t attend? I think you´re right and he´s the one that´s being selfish!

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