I have a granddaughter, who is barely twenty with two children. She and the boyfriend had initially planned on getting married after graduating h.s. Their relationship was tumultuous, fast, and careless. They ended up pregnant, both graduated h.s. but college was entirely different. They wouldn't listen to anyone, the boyfriend's family allowed my granddaughter to "stay" there whenever she wanted. Wasn't long, they were pregnant again! So, the granddaughter bounces from my home to her boyfriend's family's home. The babies are gorgeous, but there has been alot of frustration and tension between both families. The boyfriend lives a promiscuous life, and he gets violent with my granddaughter. He has damaged property at my house, and while I was away on an emergency, she supposedly was involved in a fender bender. I don't think she was driving, but I can't get the truth out of them. Now, boyfriend is having "mental" issues and he has not worked in two weeks. He finally apologized for destroying my property, and has agreed to go to counseling. Now that he's allowed to visit my house again, he has taken liberty to spending the night at my house. I'm trying to guide these two into a healthy adult relationship, and I have put my foot down at sleep overs, and using my vehicles for running his errands (he wrecked his car, and a friend's car-- see why I don't believe my granddaughter was driving?). His mother expects nothing of him, demands nothing of him, so she gets "nothing". He is respectful toward me, but he is not sincere. He will keep my granddaughter and the kids out very late, in my car. I'm so tired of being used!