If you could provide me with your perspective on the situation I'd appreciate it.
I very recently was contacted by my daughter's father's girlfriend. I didn't know he had one; no biggie though. I honestly don't care, it's his business and it's his choice whether to tell me or not.
The reason she contacted me, is because she is now in the EXACT same position as I was 3 years ago, almost to the day, oddly enough.
She is pregnant, probably no more than a month or so. He has been treating her poorly for a while, has the wrong type of priorities and she recently broke up with him as a result. She reached out to me to get my side of what happened between us; he obviously told her whatever it was he told her but I guess she started realizing that things weren't adding up. She wanted to know what to expect from him going forward.
In a nut shell, he's been telling her so many lies. About me, about our relationship, about what happened to us regarding our DD. In fact, he gave her the same story about ME that he gave me about his ex when we were together. LOL. He is involved with our DD, pays his CS on time and all of that. She provided some insight for me on many lies he has made to me about our DD, which on one hand I'm not surprised because I know how he is and have come to accept it. But at the same time I'm so annoyed because he clearly hasn't changed, not even for the sake of our DD, and is still exactly the same as he was 3 years ago. It's sad and dissapointing.
I gave her my side of the story, and prefaced it with the fact that I believe there are 3 sides to every story. In our case, his side, my side and the dead honest truth/reality of what happened. Both he and I's sides' are going to have biases because they're from our own perspectives. But his was soo far off, it was crazy. Alot of the things he really had no purpose to lie about...other than just for the sake of lying. I wished her the best of luck, I hope that she and my ex were able to work something out and told her, if she decides to reconcile it may be beneficial to consider seeking counseling with him so they can have a third party person help them thru their problems.
I'm not sure still how to process the info. I'm partially feeling, vindicated because now that he is in the same situation again, it's pretty dang obvious that he's the main issue. He's the common denominator. I'm Sad/Dissapointed for my DD because he's still such an idiot. Mad at myself for even being with this guy because he really has some emotional/mental problems. And a part of me is being reminded of what I had to go thru 3 years ago, and I am feeling a bit anxious about it. I've moved on, and am happy with my life.... but just hearing that it's happening again, even though I'm peripheral to it... it's just like wow.
I want to shake him and say stop being such a freakin selfish immature idiot and get your shit together!!!! You are a father now!!!! With another one on the way!
Anywho, any advice on the matter? I'm still processing all of it.