I have not posted on here in probably a month. Well, my ex is now engaged to his new girl friend (the one who shoved me into a door and then threw me to the floor Dec. 30th when I was there to pick up my DD). And my ex finally officially told me that he is going to be moving to North Carolina with his fiance and her daughter (this is where she is from). I tried to get a more specific time frame than "very soon". He told me he would let me know when they got back in April (they are supposed to be going down there 4/5-4/9 to look for a place to live).
Previously, I had posted that my ex had filed for a modification of his child support with my case and his case with his ex-wife. His ex-wife's support did go down, but my support stayed the same because there was not a 20% change. The modification date was 3/15, and I still have not received any support since 2/20. He is set for a review hearing on 4/24.
Also, my ex's visitation with our DD has become a very big concern for me. Since the start of this year, he has only exercised 6 overnights. This is how visitation has gone:
1/4-1/6 - the only full weekend he has taken this year (2 Overnights)
1/18-1/19 - He only had her on 1/18 due to getting drunk and getting in a fight with his girl friend. (1 Overnight)
2/1-2/2 - Due to the weekend where he got so drunk when she was there, I had filed for him to have supervised visitation. He didn't make arrangements to see her 2/1, but did get her 2/2. (1 Overnight)
2/15-2/16 - He only got her 2/16 because he was fixing something at the house on on 2/15. (1 Overnight)
3/1-3/2 - He missed the whole weekend. Supposedly the new girlfriend and her daughter were ill on Friday, and then he was ill on Saturday. (I say supposedly because the day before we had court about selling the house he is living in and he found out the house will sell) (0 Overnights)
3/15-3/16 - He did not get her 3/15 because he "had plans." He did get her 3/16 after a month of not seeing DD. (1 Overnight)
3/29-3/30 - He did not call, text, or get our DD. This is the first time that he has completely ignored his parenting time without some sort of excuse. (0 Overnights)
I have not spoken to my ex since Thursday 3/21 when I was trying to have the insurance adjuster look at the house we jointly own - that he lives in. He supposedly does not have the same phone number anymore and so I have no way of contacting him. I have his family's phone numbers and his girlfriend's number, but I am not calling or texting the girlfriend - and his family does not want brought in on anything (I don't blame them). DD is picking up on the fact that she might not see her Daddy again because I can't even say that she will see him again or will see him soon. All I can say is that I don't know when she will see her Daddy again when she asks. And when she asks if she will ever see Daddy again or things along those lines, I just say that I know she misses Daddy. It sucks.
I know that if he leaves now and stays out of her life, she will adjust - I mean I know it still won't be super easy, but there won't be so much back and forth. I am just concerned that he is going to continue with this sporadic stuff. She needs consistency. And if he does disappear as he appears to be doing, I am going to reach out to his family to be involved in DD's life because even if they don't like me, she misses her cousins. If he is going to disappear, I feel like maybe I should change our custody agreement. Currently, I have physical custody with us sharing legal custody and him having parenting time pursuant to Indiana Parenting Time Guidelines. I feel like I maybe should have it changed to where I have sole physical and legal custody. I would say parenting time up to my discretion, but I know that would never go through. Ultimately, I just worry about my dd.