She doesn't want him here. She is only 4 and I did push but she hasn't changed her mind. She doesn't know who he is to her but she does know him. She has skyped with him in the past and he has visited but had not seen her in over a year and before that it was a year and half . It's like pulling teeth. We moved to a new place and doing week and I really need to make a tough decision either to just get him out of her life for good. He doesn't push for it so it would not be hard but then I will feel guilty or let him visit and hope she warms up to him. I have no idea. I want her to know him but not him get any ideas about taking her ect. He n ever wanted her and we have no court order ect. I will never do anything with out a court order. He does pay support when he wants to.
vtw I didn't move any further away then I was before just I n a different direction. I am nervous to have this man in her life but I know I don't feel guilty later on in life becaused I tried. I can't force someone to be a parent.
That is my story briefly right now.
He told me he might be getting married and if he does then its done. He can start his life with his new wife and we can just move on.
She won't know what she is missing. My dad has been her daddy for her four years and that is fine. A family is not defined by having a mother and father it's about love and support always for the child.
Update. So he decided not to tell me that he was going bring his family and I told him I do not want them here and he talked down to me when I cancelled the plans and actually said I can't cancel any time I want. I said yes I can.
He has some nerve to talk to me like that. Besides I am going to Vito's my grandmother. She is not doing well and she is more important then his plans in which he made with out informing me or having no consideration of my space. Yes he was coming here so having respect for another person you are visiting space is respectful and the only right things to ddowel, I did decided not to text him updates or email him anything about her. No communication is best. I moved to start over. He doesn't make an effort so I will stop. That is what he wants. I am even thinking about stopping child support.