I'm a single mom of 2 children, a 8 month old girl and a 2 year old boy. their dad was involved up until 4 months ago when he beat me up then walked out. he's been back a couple times since then but nothing good came out of it. I recently moved to get away from him and be closer to my family for a better support system. It's been just over a week since we moved, and it's been an absolute horror story. I was raised in a family that spanked and thats how i originally started parenting my son, but would like to switch to attachment and positive parenting. So far i'm not having much luck. I work 2 jobs and am under alot of stress so I lose my temper pretty quickly. I haven't had a night out without my kids in 2 years and that might be part of my problem, but I feel bad asking anyone to watch my kids because I can't afford to pay. Mostly i just need some advice on how to keep my temper. I try to live by the AP motto "my child isn't giving me a hard time, He's having a hard time" this is a brand new situation for both kids, my daughter is breast fed at home, and is having a hard time at the daycare from being seperated from me, my son throws a fit about everything from being asked to eat his chicken to picking up his toys. And at that time I lose my temper and yell and he ends up with a spanking. Even when I get down on his level and explain why we don't do something he cries. His dad was his favorite person and he tended to get his way with him, and with his dad walking out and only showing up when its convienent has to be hard, but its hard to think that way. Does anyone have any advice on what to do? How to help me stick to my parenting style changes and keep my temper? Thank you so much. I"m sorry this is really long.