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Good morning ladies! I'm hoping you can give me soom advice because I am at a complete loss andquestioning my every decision. I have been separated from my ex for over a year, though he moved out about 9 months ago. Ive been dating someone for the last 6 months and finally felt comfortable telling my children boys aged 12 and 10, and my daughter age 9. The boys were upset about it and my daughter accepting. After going out to dinner with their father all three came home in tears, called their father on speaker phone, and sat me down to tell me how they really felt. This consisted of feeling that I don'd care about them, they are dying inside, don't want me with this person (they already know him as he's a friend and classmate of mine) and don't want him in the house. this was followed up by my ex letting me know if I didn't do the right thing and cut this person out of my life for the happiness of our children, that they would go live with him. I know I am a great mom, I work my butt off working, going to school, and taking care off my kids. I have no idea how to sort this mess out. On one hand I don't want my kids to feel like I don't care about their feelings on the matter, but on the other I feel like my ex is just manipulating the situation and causeing chaos where the kids now run the rules in the house. For the moment I have decided to hold off on bringing my boyfriend around the kids and just keep the two separate while I thing things over. Any advice is welcome.