Everytime my kids go to vist their father my anxiety level is through the roof.He only gets them a few hoursat most once a week, he usually sees them once a month. I get so worked up inside I have made myself sick. The children have no clue as I keep it together and happily get them ready. My daughter gets excited. She is 4 and was able to establish a bond with her Dad before he took off. My son, 2, on the other hand gets confused and worried. He did not bond with his Dad and sees him as a person who comes then Mommy disappears. The visits are hard for him, he cries most of the time and when he returns he either passes out for hours or cries with his eyes shut tight and wont let me cradel or touch him. I usually sit in his room queitly singing his songs until he comes around. My daughter comes back with a rude tongue and she wont listen. The few hours she is with her Dad there are no rules She comes home and there are those rules again. I know they need to see their Dad but its so hard. How do I make it easier for my son? How do I stop freaking out,so I can enjoy the time I have on my own? How do I stop missing them hen they are gone? Is it normal that I feel like a fish out of water when my kids are not right by my side?