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Posted by on Apr. 11, 2013 at 10:22 PM
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Do you or do you think you'll ever fully trust the guy with his nonbio child. Like would you let him watch your baby all day, or let him bathe them. I know no one would be with someone who they don't trust around their child. But what I'm saying do you trust him 100% or just 9 . Do trust him or think you would without not a shadow of a doubt. I'm not dating anyone but i just cant imagine trusting someone all the way with my child. If i was gonna be gone all day id drop my dd at grandmas house. Does this make since? Idk i was just thinking about this. A lot of moms on here say they let their bf watch kids when shes away. I just cant imagine

Even if i got married it just wouldn't be the same thsn the idea of child with bio dad. Although id be peeping with him too making sure he is doing right. Idk i couldn't trust any man 100% with my dd. 99% maybe but never 100...
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yellownes8
by on Apr. 11, 2013 at 10:27 PM
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Honestly I don't think I would be able to. I was recently dating someone who was a great guy but I didn't even like to leave him alone in the room with my kids. I guess I'm overly cautious but better safe than sorry. The only man I would trust alone with my kids is their father and my brother. Too many sickos out there and you never know who is one of them!!!
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raegan1221
by Raegan on Apr. 11, 2013 at 10:29 PM
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 Yes, I do completely trust him. He's taken him places without me. And I've had his daughter for an entire weekend without him. If I didn't trust him to be alone with my son, I'd never be with him because my son is my entire world.

a06z08mama
by on Apr. 11, 2013 at 10:31 PM
The man I am with now. Yes I trust him. I trust him more than their own father. He has two kids of his own. And with things in my past he knows it takes a lot for me to fully trust a man. He is protective of mine like he is with his.
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sunshine389142
by on Apr. 11, 2013 at 10:40 PM
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Oh...yes.  I would.  I have been a step-parent.  I love my ex's children.  There was a period of time when we were together that I was their primary caregiver - even more so than their mother.  Even though I am no longer with their father, I am still involved in their life.   Their mother trusts me and my opinions enough to discuss things with me.  We don't talk too much about parenting things though because I have some disagreement about certain choices she makes when it comes to the kids, but this is much easier to handle now that I am not in the role of a parent exactly.

And, if I am going to be with someone seriously, married, etc, I will have to trust them with my child.  If I can't trust them with my DD, then I don't want them in my life.  Saying that, I probably wouldn't have them help my DD bathe.  I don't really want my ex's fiance bathing her.  Now as a step-parent, I did help with this sort of thing, but as I said, I was their primary caretaker for almost 2 years.

Oliviasmom72
by Silver Member on Apr. 11, 2013 at 10:44 PM

I have not dated much at all since my seperation and pending  have dated 2 guys briefly. Neither met my kids. It is staggering how much the risk of child abuse goes up once a boyfriend moves in. I worry about this and would make sure to swiftly get rid of a guy who ever showed any disinterest or lack of patience of my kids.

aidensmom0407
by Member on Apr. 11, 2013 at 11:03 PM
I totally agree. I don't think I could ever trust anyone around my son who is not his father or my family. This may mean that I'll put off dating till he's 16 (he's 4 now). But if that's what it takes, so be it. DS will always come first!!!

Quoting yellownes8:

Honestly I don't think I would be able to. I was recently dating someone who was a great guy but I didn't even like to leave him alone in the room with my kids. I guess I'm overly cautious but better safe than sorry. The only man I would trust alone with my kids is their father and my brother. Too many sickos out there and you never know who is one of them!!!
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belindah
by on Apr. 11, 2013 at 11:07 PM
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I trust dh more then I trust their biodad. Biodad has a history of domestic violence drugs and alcohol abuse. Dh doesn't. Biodad is in and out of prisons and jails. Dh has never been arrested.
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Serenitymom
by Bronze Member on Apr. 11, 2013 at 11:07 PM

I have trusted a man who I thought I could trust after my ex disowned me. Ex#2 wound up molesting DD. I have now made a vow that I will never date ever again just so I can protect my kids. Its hard, and I should have been more cautious. I have a lot of guilt from it that I dont think will ever go away.

Robsessed98
by on Apr. 11, 2013 at 11:13 PM
If you dont fully trust him, dont marry him. Granted you can never be 100% about anyone, but if theres any concious doubt, don't waste your time bc it won't last anyway.
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BeachMommy07
by on Apr. 11, 2013 at 11:16 PM
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Quoting raegan1221:

 Yes, I do completely trust him. He's taken him places without me. And I've had his daughter for an entire weekend without him. If I didn't trust him to be alone with my son, I'd never be with him because my son is my entire world.

beautiful reply!


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