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My daughter's Godmother has instructed me my daughter SHOULD be crawling and sitting up at 7 months. This may or may not be true, but I did not appreciate the instructions that she is below her level. I politely said, "everyone has their own way of raising their kids and I appreciate her advice, but my daughter will advance at her age at her own pace." She replied to me that "I always ask for advice and if I don't want it, to not ask for it, because she will ALWAYS tell you whats on her mind."

We are currently not talking and I told her to leave me alone, because she continuously ranted and raved at me through text messages.

Again, I appreciate comments and advice and always welcome it, but if it becomes an issue of my child is not growing at the right level, I will speak my mind as well.

I like my friend and I don't want to lose her friendship, which is what I told her and she replied "if you're going to lose a friend over something like this...thats sad." --- thats when I told her we were both at work and we'll talk about it later. She again- ranted not to ask for advice if I don't want it.

This all stemmed from our meeting yesterday and  me accidentally slipping by saying, "what the heck?" and her daughter repeating my words. Apparently I cussed a lot yesterday and she didn't appreciate that. I can completely understand her concern for this, so I apologized twice. I don't really understand a lot of my friends and some times I can almost predict our friendship having trouble (mostly when we hang out too much or we have a conflict of interest). I value everyone I meet and I know everyone has their issues, but I don't find it fair to accuse my daughter of slowly advancing to crawling and sitting up. It really offended me and I did my best to be polite and mature about the situation, but ...I don't know. What are your thoughts? ......

by on Apr. 17, 2013 at 2:01 PM
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easinpc
by Gold Member on Apr. 18, 2013 at 1:41 PM
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DD is darling daughter (ds is for a son). 


Quoting KrEnChIk21:

 

 

Quoting cholita1978:

She would have freaked at my dd, she didnt start walking until she was 18 months, what part of every child is different/ grows up different doesn't she get?

 

 Thank-you for your reply! What is a dd?

THANK-YOU!! Thats what everyone tells me, but she was out of line and she knows it. Naturally..after I (which I shouldn't have done) put a comment on facebook, she did the EXACT same thing.

She's acting like a word that rhymes with witch right now and I'm starting to regret making her the Godmother. This behavior is something you address in Middle School. Even the Elementary students I work with act better than her. Gosh, I'm so hateful today.. :)


 

KrEnChIk21
by on Apr. 18, 2013 at 1:41 PM

 


Quoting steviechick:

My daughter scooted on her rearend when she was a baby. I think she was somewhere between 6-9 months.  She never really 'crawled'.  Her dr said it was normal and that not all babies 'crawl'. 

I tried not to cuss in front of my daughter when she was little.  However, my ex cussed up a storm.  Used the 'F' bomb all the time.  I gave him dirty looks and told him many times to watch what he said.  Interesting thing though whenever his parents were around he was on his best behavior.   My daughter was smart though.  He knew that I didn't cuss and the many times I gave her father a hard time was the reason NOT to cuss.  Today she uses the words 'crap' all the time.  I hope to never ever hear her cuss around me.

Yeah, I've heard some babies never crawl. It would be great if her Godmother understood this, but shes a thick headed kind of person.

THe cussing I try to not do and when I do, I apologize to her, even though shes 7 months. I'm working on it, but no one is perfect and it would be nice if people recognized this.

Thanks for your comment!!

 

cholita1978
by Member on Apr. 18, 2013 at 3:08 PM
It means "dear daughter"

Quoting KrEnChIk21:

 




Quoting cholita1978:

She would have freaked at my dd, she didnt start walking until she was 18 months, what part of every child is different/ grows up different doesn't she get?



 Thank-you for your reply! What is a dd?


THANK-YOU!! Thats what everyone tells me, but she was out of line and she knows it. Naturally..after I (which I shouldn't have done) put a comment on facebook, she did the EXACT same thing.


She's acting like a word that rhymes with witch right now and I'm starting to regret making her the Godmother. This behavior is something you address in Middle School. Even the Elementary students I work with act better than her. Gosh, I'm so hateful today.. :)

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cholita1978
by Member on Apr. 18, 2013 at 3:09 PM
I thought it was dear daughter? I'll take both :-)

Quoting easinpc:

DD is darling daughter (ds is for a son). 




Quoting KrEnChIk21:


 


 


Quoting cholita1978:

She would have freaked at my dd, she didnt start walking until she was 18 months, what part of every child is different/ grows up different doesn't she get?

 


 Thank-you for your reply! What is a dd?


THANK-YOU!! Thats what everyone tells me, but she was out of line and she knows it. Naturally..after I (which I shouldn't have done) put a comment on facebook, she did the EXACT same thing.


She's acting like a word that rhymes with witch right now and I'm starting to regret making her the Godmother. This behavior is something you address in Middle School. Even the Elementary students I work with act better than her. Gosh, I'm so hateful today.. :)




 

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otoole
by Bronze Member on Apr. 18, 2013 at 3:25 PM

one of my friends used to be bad for comparing her dd and my ds, they are only a few weeks apart so she was always comparing them on what they were doing. it used to drive me nuts but i always found if you just stay claim and say kids advance in differant things and at differant rates then there was nothing more she could say and she eventually stopped comparing. like your friend just stay away from each other til you both cool off and then text her as if nothing happend, if you keep bring up the things you both fell out about you will keep having fights about it, when it comes to our kids we are all very protective and dont like to hear negitive things about them if its true or not. so when you hang out together again avoid talking about each others kids or you will end up fighting again.

DissieDothe
by on Apr. 18, 2013 at 3:30 PM

 


Quoting KrEnChIk21:

 What are your thoughts? ......

Buy a baby's first year book. It will tell you what to expect & when. And a lot of stuff that you might not have thought of yet.


 

easinpc
by Gold Member on Apr. 18, 2013 at 3:55 PM

I think it can be either.  Lol just like the D in DH can stand for many things depending on if its an angry post or a happy post. 


Quoting cholita1978:

I thought it was dear daughter? I'll take both :-)

Quoting easinpc:

DD is darling daughter (ds is for a son). 


 


Quoting KrEnChIk21:


 


 


Quoting cholita1978:

She would have freaked at my dd, she didnt start walking until she was 18 months, what part of every child is different/ grows up different doesn't she get?

 


 Thank-you for your reply! What is a dd?


THANK-YOU!! Thats what everyone tells me, but she was out of line and she knows it. Naturally..after I (which I shouldn't have done) put a comment on facebook, she did the EXACT same thing.


She's acting like a word that rhymes with witch right now and I'm starting to regret making her the Godmother. This behavior is something you address in Middle School. Even the Elementary students I work with act better than her. Gosh, I'm so hateful today.. :)


 


 


 

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