I think I have this outlook on men because my grandfather was a horrible father to my mother and aunt. And MY dad? He lives about 20 minutes up the road and NEVER comes to see me or my sister or his grandchildren. I use to go see him all the time until I realized he didn't care whether I did or didn't. He wasn't even in my life until I was 13 and then I saw him a couple times a year, only when and if he needed something.
And now my baby's father has seen her about two times when she was about 2 months old, (she's 10 months now) and he only lives about 10 minutes away. He has other children too but the only reason he sees them a lot is because his mother loves her grandchildren, with the exception of my daughter, which she couldn't give two craps about.
I was just venting . But since I'm on the subject let me ask you a question and give me your opinion of what you would do,
Like I said above, my DDs fathers family has never been involved in her life and this past Christmas his mother (Billie) sent me a message on Facebook asking if she could see my daughter for Xmas. She has never tried to see my daughter before btw. I didn't answer her message because I didn't really think she deserved the right But I figured if she sent another message then she must really want to see her, so I waited, she never sent another one. It's getting close to my daughters 1st birthday and I'm expecting Billie to ask again. Here's my problem, I would not care one bit to let them see her IF they would contact me more than once a year, maybe just ask how she is. I don't think it would be fair to introduce my daughter to them and then only see them once or twice a year. It would confuse her. What would you do??? Btw, it's not my DDs father asking, it's his mom. (DDs dad said he couldn't have anything to do with us anymore because his new GF was jealous) pathetic excuse.