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My son is 11 years old. His father has been in prison since he was 3. They have communicated throughout the years with a visit here and there. He just recently got out of prison this last August. My son was so happy to have his dad back in his life. HIs dad was then diagnosed with Cancer and was undergoing Chemo, he is fine health wise now after the chemo. I think I should mention we live 2 hours away from each other.
He has not been paying me child support. I think I have goten $60 this year so far. I was going to petition for support but I though t I would give him time to recover from the Cancer.
I called the other day to see if he could send some support, well, his mother answered and says "I have some bad news, he is back in jail".....OMG, I just bursted into tears, my baby just got his dad back and this is happening again?? I find out the reason I have not been getting support is that he has been blowing all of his SSI money on drugs, and his parole officer violated him. So back to prison he goes..I dont know for how long, I dont know much until court in a few weeks.
I have yet to tell my son, I think I want to wait until school is over next month, he has enough on his plate right now I dont want to put this on him too, since he is already struggling in school. And honestly, I am petrified on how he will take the news. So to keep the stress level to a minimum, for now I am making the decision to keep it from him.
I was thinking, he has never been there! EVER! Would Termination of his rights be beneficial?? Is there really even a reason for me to do it? There is no other man in my life so adoption isnt a thing right now. He has never been a dad, and drugs have always come before our son. Even when I tried to include him in everything, conference calls with the school, calling him when our son was giving me a hard time. I TRIED! But the drugs were just priority.
What do you think??