DD has been having several accidents in the last few weeks - just in the last week 3 (peed once, and pooped twice). She is 4 and will be starting Kindergarten this fall. She has been potty trained for a good while now. She may have accidents periodically, but never pooping and never so much together. Generally its just she waits too long and her panties get a litle wet....but even that is not very often. I think that her problem is because her dad moved to north carolina and we don't know where in north carolina...and when she tried to return his phone call the sunday before last, the message said his number was disconnected or the number changed. So now she has no way to even call him and I am sure she is concerned he will never call her.
I called her doctor to get a referral for a therapist/councelor. Then today, he called from the number that a week ago said it was disconnected. I was at work. He left a message saying to have DD call him back. My concern is that if he keeps this back and forth up and not actually returning her calls or she cant even leave him a message, it will just continue to upset her and cause her problems. I am really worried about her....
So instead of having her listen to the message and call him back, I text him and told him that I would be home by 5:30 and if he wanted to talk to DD to call after that. He has not called...My lawyer seemed to think this would be okay. I dont want to be accused of keeping him from talking to her, but I don't want to facilitate him messing with her head/heart anymore than he has already.
I hate all this for her. She needs her daddy and it makes me sad. I know there is nothing I can do to make him be the dad she needs - especially being 9 to 10 hours away. And at this time, I am not open to extended visitation (ie. her going down there for any length of time). But ultimately....this just sucks.
I am hoping I can find a therapist who can help her and help me to help her more. I wish I could do more for her.