Do you think children have the right to voice their opinion and make some decisions themselves
OK anyone who read my intro knows that my kids' dad abuse me in front of our kids and also was abusive to them. I left him a few months ago and I told him he can come see the kids whenever he want but he don't want to make his gf mad so he don't wanna come see his kids. I don't trust him alone with my kids because I know how abusive he is and I'm trying to protect them. Most of the people in his family is as crazy as him because they are all mad with me because I left him for a lot of reasons but being abusive to me and our kids are the main reason and his family don't see any wrong in the abuse because all of them is pretty much living that lifestyle and think I am crazy because I don't want that for me and my kids. Ok, my kids are 10 (twins) and the oldest is about to be 13. I feel like they are old enough to make the decision to be with him or not and I won't force them to be alone with him or his insane family. He think because I won't make him be alone with him then I'm keeping him out their life even though I told him he can come see them any time he want but don't want to because he don't want his gf to get mad with him or leave him (he is the type of person who rather be with anyone than be alone). My youngest son do not want anything to do with him at all. He feel the damage is done and he don't want no one like that around him. My oldest son, who was abuse the most and/or worse out of the kids suffer anxiety problems because of the abuse he done to him and he said he feel like since he is about to be a teenager, his dad can't force him to be with him because he ain't going with him nowhere and he have no respect for him. My daughter got the least abuse from him but she I think she wanted to see him but she wanted him to come see her because she didn't want to be with him alone because she seen the abuse and since the boys wasn't there for him to abuse, he will start abusing her like he did them or me. A few weeks ago I think she completely never want to see him again because he downgraded her and me because one of his sisters let her kids go to my twins birthday party and when my kids' father tried to talk to our daughter, she wouldn't talk to him and blame me and not only talked about me like I was nothing but our daughter too. So I wanted to know, do anyone think I am doing the right thing by not forcing my kids to be alone with him or do you all think they are too young to make that decision and should be force to be alone with him regardless of how violent he can get? I just want to do what is right for my kids but at the same time I don't want them abused or even worse.