My ex and I have been informally separated for about a year and a half now. But I was living with him still, until two months ago (I had nowhere else to go and couldn't financially support myself, so I stayed for as long as I could handle the abuse). So I moved out two months ago, am filing for divorce, have been seeing someone for a month (a good friend of mine whom I've known since junior high), and I would really like to drop my married name now. I know that legally I can't yet, but I want to drop it on Facebook, at the very least. I have no ties to the name, I don't have a career to think about, etc. Everyone already knows me by my maiden name anyway.
I just don't want to see like I'm being a jerk to my ex. As horrible as he was to me, I know he's having a hard time right now and I don't want to rock any boats. But I also really don't want or have any need to keep his last name. Just wanting to change it first on Facebook. Feels weird for me to keep it when everyone knows we're not together.
on May. 24, 2013 at 3:50 PM