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Posted by on May. 29, 2013 at 11:48 AM
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I am going through a really hard time dealing with my broken heart I thought I had it under control ...honestly if I didn't have a child I love dearly ... I would have done something to hurt myself just to take the pain away from my heart.....

And I know there are women out there who went through worst than me and made it through ......
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mollymae09
by on May. 29, 2013 at 12:01 PM
Condensed version. He cheated on me for nearly the entire time we were together, lied and manipulated me horribly, then sexually abused our son after we split.

It gets better. I found a man who loves and supports both me and my son. You just have to allow yourself to be happy. Hugs mama!
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newbie1198
by on May. 29, 2013 at 12:43 PM

 Honestly I think heart break is the WORST thing as human we expierence because it is painful enough that it should kill us but doesn't and there no instant cure for it, no pill to take it away, the only thing that helps is TIME.  Time does lessen the pain there will still be bad days, but even though it sounds sappy what doesn't kill us really does makes us stronger.  I have officially been divorced for a whole year now from my high school sweetheart we started dating at 15 married at 21 for a total of 15yrs.  then he had an affair with a co-worker (by the way turns out to not be his first) they married a month after our divorce and their baby came in November I'm sure you can do the math and figure out we were still married when he knocked her up.  I thought of NASTY secrets came out thru all this and I realize now he is not the man I thought he was.  We have 2 children a teenage boy, and an 7 yr old girl at first my daughter cried every single night after he left, my son has had anger problems because after all he left right when a boy needs his dad the most the terrible teen years.  I didnt know how to help myself let alone them at first.  But we have all gotten better now my daughter says she used to miss her dad the size of the whole world but now she just misses him a little, my son son says he'll never have the father he was suppose to have now he just got a part-time dad.  He does see them some, but cancels alot of the time.  My kids are treated okay on visits, but not great prolly not even as good as you would treat guests.   I'm am a stronger independent person now that he is gone.  The only thing he said to me before he left that was honest is that he couldn't live up to the man I wanted him to be boy is that ever the truth.  Chin up things will get better I speak from expierence.  Stay strong and keep moving FORWARD best wishes

maddiemommy2009
by on May. 29, 2013 at 1:44 PM
Wow yea when it comes to my child I'll kill a man ... I glad u found happiness I want that to someday soon ..... I just hate this part right here....


Quoting mollymae09:

Condensed version. He cheated on me for nearly the entire time we were together, lied and manipulated me horribly, then sexually abused our son after we split.



It gets better. I found a man who loves and supports both me and my son. You just have to allow yourself to be happy. Hugs mama!

steviechick
by on May. 29, 2013 at 1:45 PM

Broken hearts take a while to heal.  There is no set time, only you are able to heal from hurt.  The pain WILL go away. I promise you.  Just allow yourself to feel and cry when you need to cry.  Betrayal is the worst human experience.  I know because I lived through it after 26 years of marriage.  You ask (and so do so many other people) how could my 'loving' husband betray me after 26 years of being husband and wife?  Easy, it was HIM that cheated.  It was HIM that decided life with me no longer mattered.  My 'loving' husband decided to chase after his co-worker behind my back.  Instead of approaching me with the problems we were facing (severe monetary problems) my ex decided to have a sexual relationship with a much younger single female (16 yrs his junior).  Even though we were both miserable in our marriage that didn't mean he could hurt me in the process.  He had already done that with the constant money problems.  But, selfishness caught up with him and so did his need for sexual pleasure.  I found out after we separated that my ex suffers from porn problems.  He kept hidden magazines and condom wrappers in his office.  I found it all after going through his desk and moving a cradenza I sold to a friend of mine.  So, for years my ex had sexual problems and I had no idea he was suffering.  I knew he had horrible problems with money and being responsible.  I also knew he had severe anger problems.  My daughter and I are proof of that mental abuse. 

I made it through my horrible marriage and divorce based on what I would of had if my ex and I stayed married - knowing I was married to a cheater/sexual predator and a financial deadbeat.  I now know that my ex was never going to be the man I once knew.   Deep down inside he has been very mentally unstable and had kept it at bay.   My ex kept me from being happy and fulfilled while we were married.  Two completely opposite people.  I wanted a social life, a financially secure life.  I wanted to live comfortably.  My ex was too self-absorbed about anything else.  His wants and needs were always met up until he wanted more from another woman.  Now he has three kids to take care.  He's never been fully responsible for our daughter.  He was also married before he met me and he walked out on his first born child - a daughter six years younger than his tramp. 

My life has gotten better.  I've been able to have more $ in the bank, I can do whatever I want with my life and never have to feel the need to make my husband happy.  A marriage is about commitment and a strong bond between two people.  Not constant worry about money and making one happy.   You broke up with your ex for a good reason.  Look back and think about why you two broke up.  It was meant to be.  Your heart will heal.  Just give it the time it needs.

 

newlife2013
by on May. 29, 2013 at 1:48 PM
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I'm sorry you feel this way, just look forward to each new day esp for your child. may you find peace soon.

My heart is not broken for the ex, I'm broken for the kids having a useless father
maddiemommy2009
by on May. 29, 2013 at 1:49 PM
I'm sorry to hear about ur heart ache...
And I know things will get better .
I wish it would soon ....


Quoting newbie1198:

 Honestly I think heart break is the WORST thing as human we expierence because it is painful enough that it should kill us but doesn't and there no instant cure for it, no pill to take it away, the only thing that helps is TIME.  Time does lessen the pain there will still be bad days, but even though it sounds sappy what doesn't kill us really does makes us stronger.  I have officially been divorced for a whole year now from my high school sweetheart we started dating at 15 married at 21 for a total of 15yrs.  then he had an affair with a co-worker (by the way turns out to not be his first) they married a month after our divorce and their baby came in November I'm sure you can do the math and figure out we were still married when he knocked her up.  I thought of NASTY secrets came out thru all this and I realize now he is not the man I thought he was.  We have 2 children a teenage boy, and an 7 yr old girl at first my daughter cried every single night after he left, my son has had anger problems because after all he left right when a boy needs his dad the most the terrible teen years.  I didnt know how to help myself let alone them at first.  But we have all gotten better now my daughter says she used to miss her dad the size of the whole world but now she just misses him a little, my son son says he'll never have the father he was suppose to have now he just got a part-time dad.  He does see them some, but cancels alot of the time.  My kids are treated okay on visits, but not great prolly not even as good as you would treat guests.   I'm am a stronger independent person now that he is gone.  The only thing he said to me before he left that was honest is that he couldn't live up to the man I wanted him to be boy is that ever the truth.  Chin up things will get better I speak from expierence.  Stay strong and keep moving FORWARD best wishes


maddiemommy2009
by on May. 29, 2013 at 1:57 PM
U been through a lot... sorry but u sound much stronger now.

I think its desperation made me turn a a fool in love .. when I think back on the good and bad times I had with this guy Ive cried more than I've smiled and now I cry even more because I cry and I have no idea why I am crying cause I def don't want a man like him in my life ... all he has ever done is lied and cheat and used me and I feel stupid because it hurts I should be rejoicing not crying


Quoting steviechick:

Broken hearts take a while to heal.  There is no set time, only you are able to heal from hurt.  The pain WILL go away. I promise you.  Just allow yourself to feel and cry when you need to cry.  Betrayal is the worst human experience.  I know because I lived through it after 26 years of marriage.  You ask (and so do so many other people) how could my 'loving' husband betray me after 26 years of being husband and wife?  Easy, it was HIM that cheated.  It was HIM that decided life with me no longer mattered.  My 'loving' husband decided to chase after his co-worker behind my back.  Instead of approaching me with the problems we were facing (severe monetary problems) my ex decided to have a sexual relationship with a much younger single female (16 yrs his junior).  Even though we were both miserable in our marriage that didn't mean he could hurt me in the process.  He had already done that with the constant money problems.  But, selfishness caught up with him and so did his need for sexual pleasure.  I found out after we separated that my ex suffers from porn problems.  He kept hidden magazines and condom wrappers in his office.  I found it all after going through his desk and moving a cradenza I sold to a friend of mine.  So, for years my ex had sexual problems and I had no idea he was suffering.  I knew he had horrible problems with money and being responsible.  I also knew he had severe anger problems.  My daughter and I are proof of that mental abuse. 


I made it through my horrible marriage and divorce based on what I would of had if my ex and I stayed married - knowing I was married to a cheater/sexual predator and a financial deadbeat.  I now know that my ex was never going to be the man I once knew.   Deep down inside he has been very mentally unstable and had kept it at bay.   My ex kept me from being happy and fulfilled while we were married.  Two completely opposite people.  I wanted a social life, a financially secure life.  I wanted to live comfortably.  My ex was too self-absorbed about anything else.  His wants and needs were always met up until he wanted more from another woman.  Now he has three kids to take care.  He's never been fully responsible for our daughter.  He was also married before he met me and he walked out on his first born child - a daughter six years younger than his tramp. 


My life has gotten better.  I've been able to have more $ in the bank, I can do whatever I want with my life and never have to feel the need to make my husband happy.  A marriage is about commitment and a strong bond between two people.  Not constant worry about money and making one happy.   You broke up with your ex for a good reason.  Look back and think about why you two broke up.  It was meant to be.  Your heart will heal.  Just give it the time it needs.


 


mommy2zbg
by on May. 29, 2013 at 2:01 PM

 I wasn't legally married but in TX we do the common law thing...

Me and my ex were on and off for 5 years... seperated a total of a year probably.  He was a big drinker and he thought more about his friends than he did his family at home. When he got mad about something he would take it out on me whether I was involved in it or not. I went through emotional and verbal abuse the entire time we were together. I got back with him thinking he had change. Trust me, thats not always the case. He was good at first then once he got comfortable he would do it all over again. He was always accusing me of talking to other guys and seeing other guys or flirting with other guys but I never was. Guilty dog always barks first... and that is true.. He would go out and not invite me or son to go with him. It got to were he told me that he didn't want to be seen out in public with me because he didn't like me. We had completely different view of parenting... Yes I know we should have discussed that before having a baby. but things happened so fast. He always told me he wanted to keep our family together because he didn't have one but what he didn't realize was that he was the one breaking us apart! I didn't trust him at all and he didn't get me a reason to. He always kept his phone on silent and always had a lock to it. His friends he was hanging with weren't exactly the best ones for him. They were all single and ready to mingle and he was just wanting to fit in with them. None of them had anyone at home waiting on them. I finally got up the nerve to leave him 9 months ago, and let me tell ya... This has been the best 9 months I have had in a while.

I have gained my confidence back due to him always putting me down and talking bad about me and how I look. I have gained some of my weight back. I was extremely stressed and lost a lot of weight and I looked sickly. So I'm happy to say I have gained weight. I have started living my life the way I have wanted to and I don't have to answer to anyone. I Have been extremely hurt in the past and have not been willing to let anyone in. I met this guy a couple of months ago and we hit it off. I have told him bits and pieces of what all I have been through and he seems to be a real gentlemen.

Honey, just keep your chin up and always think postive. Ya it will be hard to at first but look at what you got out of this horrible situation. You have your wonderful kid who looks up to you and will contintue to look up to you! Be strong. You got this!

raegan1221
by on May. 29, 2013 at 2:19 PM

 Which time? Lol. My exhusband was very emotionally and verbally abusive. We divorced in 2006. I dated some crazies in between including two of which told me they loved me and took it back. Then currently my boyfriend of 3 and a half years and I broke up about a month and a half ago. I feel that emotionally he cheated on me..Plus there were a lot of other issues. I helped him with A LOT including getting custody of his daughter. But we are actually trying to work things out (long story).

 

Good luck to you. Don't let the pain get you down..realize that you are stronger than you even know. I always felt weak until now. Being a single Mom in itself is a big strength, I feel. :)

bulletproof10
by on May. 29, 2013 at 6:14 PM
Well long story a bit shortened my sons dad was a peice of shit abusive never wanted to help with the baby. cheated used me wouldnt work i was the one supporting him when i was 16 and him 18-19. Broke up when son was 4 months old. got with another guy a few months later. fell completely in love.and he was a great dad to my son as well we decided to have a baby. got pregnant had our daughter got engaged a week and few days after having her and then 4 days after that when our daughter was 2 weeks old he got killed in a car wreck. Thats my broken heart story :(
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