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Feeling depressed today!!

Posted by on Jun. 9, 2013 at 10:15 AM
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Good morning! My ex just picked up my son to take him strawberry picking and of course his gf was in the car with her son!! Let me explain, this bitch stole my life! She's in my seat and her son is in my sons car seat!! Yes I'm jealous and I wish it was raining so they could have a horrible time!! I can't get anything done today bc all I think about is that it should be me going strawberry picking!! I'm So depressed!! I just wish horrible things on them both! And this is not me! How do I move on? I miss my son already. Just scared he might have more fun with his dad then me! Yes it's eating me up!! HELP!!
by on Jun. 9, 2013 at 10:15 AM
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virginiamama71
by Carrie on Jun. 9, 2013 at 10:23 AM
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It's not good to wish horrible things on anyone, it can come back and only happen to you. It did not work out with you and him and he has moved on. You have to let go and start your own life now. Your son will always love his Mother as long as his Mother is showing him how to love. Be happy your son has a father who is in his life...too many children want this too.
ZoeClaireWisdom
by on Jun. 9, 2013 at 10:36 AM
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I'm so sorry you are going through this. <3

I'm divorced and I have 2 boys with my exhusband plus his daughter that I raised. I also have 3 stepkids with my fiance. I know, complicated.

This woman isn't living your life. That's just irrational. You and your child's father broke up. That's because of issues between the two of you. You need to stay in reality and remember that your relationship likely had some serious problems. So you are no longer romantic partners. 

Having a bad relationship is awful. It makes you unhappy. It also sets a terrible example for your son. If you and his dad stayed together in an unhealthy relationship where one or both of you didn't love the other or you fought all the time, then your son would grow up thinking that's what a relationship is supposed to look like. And he would repeat your misery.

Instead, you two separated. Now, you both have a chance at happiness. He's giving it a shot with this other woman. That's great! That means that your son will possibly have a happy dad. And yet another person in your son's life to love him, cherish him, play with him. Those are all super positive things. For your child.

Now, on to you. You are 100% irreplaceable. Your son could have 10 aunts, 4 grandmas, 2 extra moms, 7 sisters, 14 female cousins, 9 awesome female teachers...none of that will matter with respect to your standing. He can love all of these women in his life and enjoy all they have to give him. You are you. You are his mother. The one who gave him life. That's a position no one can ever take away, no matter what. 

You deserve to be happy. What do you want in life? What makes you feel great? Start focusing on making a great life for yourself. A happy mom means a happy child. 

Never wish harm on your child's father or his family (that includes his significant other.) That is your child's father. Your child loves his father. Your son would be so sad to have an awful day with his dad. Wish a wonderful life for your son with his dad. And then get to work on your own life. 

You can do this. I promise. 

blogger, writer, photographer, mother @unnecessarywisdom


rocky_mtn_mama
by Bronze Member on Jun. 9, 2013 at 12:49 PM
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I'm sorry you're feeling this way.

Instead, why not hope that your son is having a wonderful time and making some good memories that he can come home and tell you about.  Then, plan to make some memories with him yourself.  

You need to get past your ex before you can move on.  Stop thinking that this woman stole your life, you STILL have your life, it's just a little different than you expected it to be.

Marga01
by on Jun. 10, 2013 at 4:00 AM
You are right! I need to move on!
Marga01
by on Jun. 10, 2013 at 4:07 AM
It's hard to move on! I've though about it a lot and I still have feelings for his dad and just wish we can be a family again. Thanks I know I need to move on!
steviechick
by on Jun. 10, 2013 at 10:57 AM

I know how you feel.  My ex left me for a co-worker. Truth be told I was miserable being married to him even before the tramp came along and destroyed my marriage and broke-up my family.  It still hurts sometime whenever I think about my ex moving on with someone else.  As miserable as he made me it's hard getting over 26 years of your life.  I would have preferred my ex left me before his affair or actually as it progressed.  But, instead he chose to cheat on me and father two kids in the process.  He did this cheating behind my back while he was active duty.  I can actually breath a huge sie of relief knowing that I no longer have to put up with his constant money problems, anger management and porn problems.  The porn came up after we divorced.  Something he hid from me for a long time.  I'm 50/50 on how I feel about the tramp.  She helped me get rid of a total scumbag/oser but she also broke up my family and slept with my ex while we were married.  She's scum as well.  But, she chased after him.  She wanted him that bad.  She now has my 'old problems'.   Betrayal is hard to overcome but you will get over it eventually.  As far as the one looking on the outside and feeling hurt and numb, just remember you broke up for good reasons.  You aren't with anyone.  He is.  You are alone.  He's isn't.  Would you honestly be happy if you were still with him?  Your relationship ran it's course.  It's time to move on and put things in the past.  Your son loves you no matter what.  Yes, Daddy has a new gf in his life.  But, Daddy has moved on and is starting his life without mommy.   Just hope that this gf is a good person.  Not to your ex but to your son.  Because truly that is all that matters now. 

easinpc
by Gold Member on Jun. 10, 2013 at 10:58 AM

Hugs!!

Marga01
by on Jun. 10, 2013 at 1:27 PM
Thx for all your replies, but he sent me a pic today of my son and this bitch's son on the beach yesterday after strawberry picking. She was in the pic and I'm feeling lonely again! In need if a drink!!!
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