My ex called this afternoon. He is getting ready to be transferred within the next 10 days or so to Kansas (he's currently in Minnesota) and asked if, once he's there and settled, I'd let the kids go out for a month to stay with him.
I'm pretty much ok with it, but sad that they'd be gone so long, they've never been gone more than 2 weeks before and that was last summer. I talked to the kids (DS12 and DD15) and DS was very excited at the prospect of spending so much time with his dad, he misses him a lot. DD though, immediately burst into tears. She loves her dad, but they don't exactly see eye to eye. She said 1)she's afraid they'll argue a lot and 2)she doesn't want to be gone for her birthday (end of July). She's also still mad at him for chosing his job over staying here where they can have access to him when they want.
So, I proposed to the kids that they go for 2 weeks and then if they want to come home, they can but if they want to stay longer, they can do that too.
So, my question is.... would you make your teen stay for the whole month? Would you let her chose to go/not go and for how long if she goes?