Last year I had my son call his dad for father's day. It had been 5 months since the ex called. He apologized for being a shithead and promised to be around more. He saw my son in July (after he forgot his birthday then tried to pick a fight with the karate teachers, how brilliant is that) and again at Labor Day. My son was supposed to visit at Christmas but he got sick and was too sick to travel. I offered up a 3 day weekend in January and the ex turned it down and I haven't heard from him since.
So today I guess after he figured out that I wasn't going to make the phone call, he decided to put the call in. My son didn't wish him a happy father's day. He apologized to both of us again. He promised to come see my son and bring his Christmas presents (how thoughtful since his birthday is in 3 weeks). He asks me if he can take him for the day and just hang out around town before doing a weekend. I tell him my intention was never to keep them apart, I was just making his exit easier since that appears to be what he wants. He tells me he's been depressed since he lost his job nearly 2 years ago and that he's starting to work full time in about 3 weeks. He says he'll start paying his CS when he goes full time. I ask why he hasn't been to visit and he tells me that it's because he can't afford it and doesn't have a car.
I ripped him a new asshole. What he didn't know is that for the last several months, I've been screenshotting his Twitter, Linkedin, and website for the company he works for with his bio on it. I know that he's been working full time since March, that he has made trips with his girlfriend all over the state, including to Orlando (where my son and I live) just LAST WEEKEND. He can't make it here because he sold his car and bought a $1700 bicycle as transportation. I told him not to bullshit me because I do better research than the fucking NSA and I will throw all of that on the desk of a judge. I have absolutely had it.
My son goes through cycles. He spends a weekend with his dad, comes home upset because it wasn't a good visit, goes about his routine for about 4 months before he starts noticing he hasn't talked to his dad, gets sad for a while, then gives up. Right when he gives up, the ex comes and starts the whole cycle over again. No more. Shit or get off the friggin pot! This in and out business is more harmful than if he just walked out for good. I told him this is his last chance. If he goes more than a month without calling again I'm taking it to court and filing for sole custody.