So I am about 6.5 months pregnant and have been struggling with whether or not I should give my baby her father's last name and have him sign the birth certificate. I have heard many mixed opinions on this and I am looking at meeting with a family lawyer just to make sure I know my rights.
Her father and I are not together but we are friendly and trying to coparent. It was a little rocky right when I first found out I was pregnant but he has expressed that he really wants to be there for me and her and so far has been there for some of the doctors appointments and we have talked about when she is born and how he is going to be part of her life physically and financially. So far he has been very supportive and by my side. I would like to believe that he will always be there and be an amazing father to her but I am somewhat guarded and want to make sure I am protecting my daughter in case he decides to split.
The reason I am a little hesitant is because her father and I did not really know each other for very long before I got pregnant (a mistake i will need to live with so no need to judge). I just want to make sure I have full custody of her and in case he turns out to be a deadbeat he cant just take her and (maybe I am paranoid) leave with her and me not see her (he is not originally from this country) or if he happens to go back to his country on his own, how will i get a passport for her or do certain things I need to as I may not be able to easily contact him for permission.
Any suggestions? What have been your experiences?