Ok, I'm going to add at the beginning. By the post below, my point is that it's annoying for people to say they don't have something but they really do - in this case, help. Yes I rant a little about how hard I have it, but it's not meant to belittle any single mothers, that part is just a rant. I did originally write I'm sick of single moms doing this, but that was mainly meant for my friend (local friend, not on here) who does this - complains she doesn't have ANY help and she does it ALL alone, but her mom lives with her and I know for a fact that almost every night her mom cooks and cleans.. But again, I'm not trying to compare how hard I have it to you ladies, I'm just annoyed by people saying they have no help when they really do. THAT'S ALL.
I am not making this anon and don't care what crap I may get for this, but I am damn sick of these stupid "single moms" and even moms with husbands or significant others complaining about how hard it is then they say that they have had help. Such as, don't say how hard you had it if you had the baby's father there at the birth of your child. Or if you lived with a parent or friend when the child was born. Or if you lived with a no good man who "didn't help". First of all, if your child's father was there at the birth at least he cared enough to see the baby come out. If you lived with a friend or parent, don't start the single parent shit with me because you obviously had help whether it be sweeping the floor, making dinner, doing laundry, etc. If you had a no good man who "didn't help" well I'm sure he did something, be it put a dish in the sink or wipe down the bathroom sink or change ONE diaper. I have done it 100% on my own. No help at all. My daughter did not sleep through the night until she was 10 months old and I was working 8-5 Monday through Friday. I was working on 2, MAYBE 3 hours of sleep. I have to shop whether my kid is sick, grumpy, hungry, etc. Until she was about 6 months old, I hardly even had time to eat a frozen heat up meal because my daughter was extremely colicky. So, stop bitching that your husband didn't load the dishwasher the right way, put your kid in ff at 13 months, 22 lbs when it's perfectly legal and if you get in a bad enough accident, the kid is going to get hurt no matter how you look at it. Stop bitching if your husband decides he needs a quick break and does something for himself like going fishing because I'm pretty sure he gives you breaks too... at least you have him there to help. Stop bitching that you "didn't have anyone" when you lived with your damn parents for the first year of you kids life. And PLEASE stop bitching because your stupid no good husband is just dead weight and gives you more work... if it's that bad and you think you'd be better off without him, LEAVE HIM! If he's just dead weight, it would be easier without him, right?? Sorry about my rant.. and if you're offended, you're probably offended because something I wrote above describes you.
I would like to add something. I feel like I'm getting bashed for my post and while I don't care, there are alot of likes on posts where they say we are here to support each other. I'm not attacking anyone in particular, I'm just venting because I have had very hard times and get tired of people (like my "best friend") saying how hard they have it as if I have it so easy. Instead of bashing or attacking me, how about some words of encouragement to someone who is going through a rough time..... such as be supportive as you say this group is for.