My son has been having a hard time at his school. They've been constantly pressuring me to get him assessed for ADHD, but his pediatrician, developmental pediatrician, a clinical psychologist, and an OT that was hired to work with him by his previous daycare - all say there is NOTHING wrong and there is NO NEED for an assessment because he shows no signs of ADHD.
The teachers in the afternoon program (Strong Start) have been calling me almost everyday. He's peed himself, he put scissors in his mouth ONCE, he headbutted a little girl and has pushed a kid by accident (which was witnessed by the second grade teacher) - and the principal, Strong Start director and resource teacher all want him to get a "second" opinion, even after my son's seen all of these specialists within the last two months. The thing is too, he's only been in the school since April (long story short - my subsidy for daycare expired, I am currently in summer courses, and the school had 5 other children start the same day as my son), so I just don't feel they are giving him a fair chance.
The principal is pressuring me to hold him back in Kindergarten, but my mom has her masters in Education and says she believes the school is just after special ed dollars and they see an opportunity to get another inclusion worker at their school. She said the school needs to give my son a fair chance. As for kindergarten readiness, he can read and write, and knows basic math. He's been assessed by the developmental pediatrician and has all skills down.
I enrolled him in a school on Thursday and was told if the principal decides there is room, he will be accepted. I got a call back first thing Friday morning saying he's been accepted and tomorrow, he can go meet the teacher.
This school is bigger, there is more school yard to run around, better playground, more support staff in the school and classroom and is CLEANER. The school he is in right now is small, about 40 staff in total, has a small yard but brand new play structure and is very dirty. The roof in the gym is yellowed and some of the ceiling tiles are pushed in and you can see the dust in the roof, the bathroom door is broken so they just keep it open and when children need the bathroom, a teacher stands by the door.
Anyway, aside from the physical ailments of the school, a few of the staff including the principal, have been pressuring me to get him assessed and assessed and see other people. I've seen everyone they've suggested, and MORE. Even the OT that worked with him says she will be closing his file in AUgust because he doesn't have any needs. The school was always calling me about those incidents which happened in one month. It was like BOOM, BOOM. One after another. Even the OT had said "Instead of calling mom about all the negative, call her about the good". It was so depressing. They have EVERY SINGLE INCIDENT photocopied for me to take to all the appointments where I was supposedly to have him assessed. He's been assessed 4 times and they ALL said the same thing and even called the school on their reports but the school will not shut the fuck up about it. It has been driving me insane.
Anyway. I'm stressed out. I'm taking D to the Open Day tomorrow to meet his teacher and tour the school and talk with the principal, and I reallllllllly like this school. I visited the website, I've talked with the principal in February and she told me to pick a registration form up at the end of June whcih I have done, and she's accepted my son, and said he was the ONLY student out of catchment who applied and she said she is happy to have him.
Should I mention all the stress and pressure I've been feeling at the current school or do you think that will dampen their decision to accept him? I feel like the school wants to label my son, as he is Aboriginal descent, and my parents can't help but feel they are trying to label him with a disability because Aboriginal children are known to have FAS and other disabilities. There is a high rate of women drinking and doing drugs while pregnant and I feel like they think "it's not just ADHD" which is really pissing me off. My aunt had cases there when she worked for CFS and said that the school my son is in are really CFS happy and call for EVERYTHING.
Once I get a feel for the new school, how would I tell the current school I've decided to not have my son attend there in september? They want to hold him back and make him do kindergarten even though all the assessments have stated he has all the basic skills and is ready for grade 1!!!