Please, please, Please Advise:
@8wks, we're living together, dating for 2 years. I submitted maternity leave in advance to my employer & was let go 2 weeks later but unable to prove it's linked.
@12 wks, we fight and ultimately he leaves me and the apt to move 1/4 mi away and takes a dog. Jobless and unable to afford apt, I re-rent it and move back in with my parents and try to start over.
We went back and forth trying to mend things with counseling etc but just gets worse and he starts going out every weekend to clubs and electronic music festivals, doing club drugs. He's 29, I'm 25.
@20 wks, it's a girl and he says he wants me to put her up for adoption and it's not fair that i won't. Now 36wks and he doesn't want to know when I go into labor or when she's born, he's out completely.
I'm scared of the child support issue because I originally thought we would work it out and now I'm living off of unemployment, once that goes I will have just had her and don't know how i'll support myself between her birth and recovery/getting a job. My parents can't really help me and I'm also trying to go to school part time this fall so that'll affect my availability with being a new mom and trying to get a job.
he makes ~65k on record, has no children and no debt, not even a car or student loan payment. do i file for child support or is it too much stress/trouble/emotionally draining? I'm at the end of my rope here, completely blindsighted by everything that's happened and just trying to put together a plan for the near future. i've heard it's a straight 17% but then i've also heard a lot of women get much, much less and i just want to be prepared.
i guess i'm looking for advice or other stories about how child support has turned out and how/when to apply because i'm terrified i won't be seen as a fit mother bc i lost my job or am going to school and he can afford a lawyer. i want to be able to give my baby girl what i can without feeling like i'm always stretched to the point of breaking.
i am on state insurance and i don't know how that affects things either, but i don't qualify for food stamps bc of my unemployment.
any and all advice is so, so, so welcome and thank you in advance. i'm so glad i found this place during these last few weeks (hasn't been an easy pregnancy either)