We dated briefly back in high school but my parents forbid it because he is african american. we are now 31 and 32 and he messaged me on fb 7 months ago. since then its been a whirlwind romance. I tried to pump the brakes on it so to speak because it was my first relationship after my divorce but that didn't last long. I fell for him and hard. I introduced him to my kids, ETC... my parents hated everything about him from the beginning. I live with them and have since I divorced. They forbid him from coming over here, etc... at first I didn't see what the problem was but slowly I opened my eyes to the way he was.
He's had 5 jobs in 7 months. got fired from his last one because he got in a fight with another coworker. He doesnt have a car of his own. a house or apartment of his own (HE JUST BOUNCES AROUND FROM FAMILY MEMBER TO FAMILY MEMBER) he drinks and heavily at times. he smokes weed. all things I am avidly against. especially around my kids. I left him and told him when he's ready to quit to call me. he of course sucked me back in and things have been good. we planned to get an apartment and were supposed to move out friday until I found a weed wrapper and blunt on my parents deck a day ago. I just don't know if I can look past drug use. he also has a problem with my daughter and how she acts but she seems to only act that way around him. I know what I need to do. its just time to drop him but I want to hear what you think and maybe from women who have been through this. don't get me wrong he's loving and sweet to my kids and I. things haven't always been crazy but I need my kids and i respected 100 percent of the time not 50. FEEL FREE TO BE A FRANK AS YOU WANT. QUITE FRANKLY I NEED IT LOL