So im on POF, have been for 2 years. So I get a message from a guy today. I check out his profile. It says "Self employed so dont ask". Then his whole "about me" paragraph talks about how women always ask first thing what he does because we all need someone to take care of us. Says nothing about himself...just that. So I decide to play with him for a bit since I am NOT interested in dating him. I respond to his very well thought out "Hi" message with this :
Me: Women ask what you do for a living because we dont want to be stuck with a loser with a nowhere job anymore than you guys want to be stuck with a woman with no job asking you to support her. Thats why we ask and its an important question.
Him: Yes i agree but for it to be your first question sounds like a gold digger to me I'm not saying ever girl on here is a gold digger
Me: Better to find out in the beginning if he is a loser than on the 2nd or 3rd date.
Him: So if the guy is disabled and can't work he is a loser & self employed means just that why does anyone need to know more then that? If a guys first question to you was what do you do for a living then you would some idea that he was a loser looking for someone to keep them up
Me: Disabled? I'd pass because again, I don't want to take care of someone. I don't mind when guys ask what I do, they have every right to make sure I support myself. Self employed can mean "i draw tattoos on my friends in my garage for cash". It can mean a lot of things, not all good.
So am I wrong here?????