He called today and told me he was hired for a sales job that starts monday. He has asked me for a loan so he can rent a room/apt so he will have a place to sleep, shower and iron his clothes for work, etc. i realize it will be hard for him to work living out of his car. This is the practical side. The emotional side is that no matter what this man put me through (and it has been a lot) I will always love him, we were together for 20 years It breaks my heart to see him like this. He is also the father of my kids, and it is hard for them to understand why I will not help him. Never mind the fact that he has spent most of the last two years riding his bike at the beach, doing amatuer photography or hanging out in bars.
Even if I decided to risk the very small safety net I have to help him, there is really no guarantee he will 1) stay employed 2) make any $ 3)pay me back 4)pay child support.
The kids and I struggle financially and the idea of cs is enticing. I am physically and mentally exhausted with the constant stress. Currently we are barely surviving. I have sold many of my belongings and I am currently looking for a 2nd job.
Am I crazy to even consider it? What would you do?