Wow, I haven't been on here in months but some things have come up and I am just wondering what you would do in my situation. Just a reminder about me: I am in my early 20's, first time single mom to my 5 month old daughter, I live with my parents and I am going to school online. The "father" of my daughter left this state when I was only 17 weeks pregnant. He has not sent any money (in fact, I had sent him LOTS of money while I was pregnant), he is now 25 and never had a job, EVER. He has not done ANYTHING for my daughter, and I have not talked to him as of Mother's day due to the fact that he's manipulative and lies (and he cheated the entire time we were together). So on Mother's day I decided enough was enough, he will never change and my daughter deserves better, as do I.
SO, as of Thursday, he started blowing up my phone saying he was coming back, saying he couldn't wait to hug both of us, blah blah blah. Since he's known for lying I didn't believe him. But it made me think, what would I do if he really was back? What if he shows up at my house demanding to see my baby? I decided I would call the police if he wouldn't leave. I have thought about going down to the station just to see what they say I should do in case he shows up. He has stopped calling so I have not done that yet. I am starting to think he isn't really here.
My mom is on the same page as me, she wants him as far away as possible, doesn't want him near me or the baby. My dad, on the other hand, thinks I should let him see her and hold her. I don't see why since he hasn't done a single thing to help or show he even cares. My dad suggested taking him to our family counselor's office so it's totally mutual and safe.
This really threw me a curve ball. I spent all my time thinking about how I would do whatever necessary to keep him away, but then my dad starts saying those things. What would you do? Let him see her? or keep him away?