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advice - court on the 9th for cs and custody

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Never done this before and was looking for some advice. On my phone so sorry about any typos. So we broke up in May, he moved out around May 24. Our work schedules are pretty messed up. I usually start work at 430am and he works nights so doesn't get off til around 1-3 in the morning. He still helps me with my older daughter by taking her to summer camp. So what we agreed on was that he would get to our place (he's still on the lease n paying his half of the rent although its always late) at the time that I had to leave, wait til our daughter woke up, take my oldest to camp if he has to then go back to his place until it was time for him to go to work and drop her off with me. He would do the same on his days off and keep her for the night. Well it hasn't gone that way at all. He watches our daughter here at our place while I'm at work. His days with her have slowly turned into him hanging with her here at the apartment and waiting til I get home from work, usually around noon, leaves and tells me he'll pick her up after her nap because she sleeps better here. Last weekend he didn't even take her over night and told mr he'd stay until she went to bed and ended up leaving just after 6pm. Now I rather have her with me. He lives with his friends until our lease is up and we can go onto our own separate places. He says its easier to watch her at our place because they have too much stuff shr can get into and would be chasing her arou the whole time. The biggest problem I have with this situation is that he has barely given me money for child support until we get something court ordered. For the month of kune he gave me $70 for food. I pay the sdge and cable bill. So he's here all day, eating the food that I pay for, saying yhe baby ate it (she does kinda eat a lot) using power obviously because tje tv is always on, drinki my water, juice etc, using the diapers and wipes I buy. Mean while he barley has to spend any of his own money to supply what she needs on his time. Legally I can't do anything cuz he's on the lease and oays rent still. He gets sooo pissed when I ask him to clean up his messes, as he should since we are no longer together and cleaning up after each other went out tje, in court, do I askfor more money since technically he really isnt providing for her at all? He's eating food that I have to buy and some of that is witjh fs and that money is to feed my kids not him. Also, he doesn'tppay rent with his friends so he's not paying anything extra by him not living in our place. He says when we get out of our lease and he's able to get his own olace tjat it will change but that's not for another 4 months...I cant keep doing this...sorry this is so long and thanks for reading
by on Jul. 5, 2013 at 12:55 AM
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by Member on Jul. 5, 2013 at 9:09 PM

Correct. He is staying with 2 friends who are a couple and her dad own the appartment complex sothey only pay $300 in rent. So bbasically he gets to stay there for free.
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