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venting and just tired of my ex

Posted by on Jul. 12, 2013 at 9:33 AM
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5 yrs ago I met my daughters father we met on the bus going to Texas I was going to visit my mom and he was going to visit his aunt and cousins in tx he was staying with them for a month and I was staying wi th my mom for 3 weeks he was from minnesota and I was from iowa we only lived 2 hours apart we really hit it off and we exchanged email address and found out w
Have been talkin to eachother on a chat site so thought that was cool because we never intented too meet so we did on accident so came to stay with me at my moms house for a week and thenhe went back to his aunt house my mom had a heart attack while I was there my aunralso drove from iowa to see my mom the same time we went there so it was weird how it worked out that way my mom had us there when she needed us my mom had to have a quadrupal bipass surgery so I decided to stay in texas to help take care of my mom she was in the hospital 2 weeks she came home and I waited to take a pregnancy test but I took one when she came home and found out I was pregnant that was 3 weeks after my daughters father was staying at my moms with me we were a couple he would call me everyday for a month I told him I was pregnant and then he stopped calling me and he changed his number I stayed in Texas 2yrs later after my daughter was born I. Found him on fb and then told him about our daughter and he acted like he wanted to be a part of her life but I understood he couldn't come to texas because it can get exspensive but dec 2011 my mom brother and my daughter and I moved. Myback to iowa so my mom could be close to rochester minnesota to get her cancer treatments we found out my mom had vulvar cancer in october 2011 so we wanted to and move back to iowa so we could be close to our family and friends so my daughters father met our daughter in april 2012 and he acted like he wanted to be in her life he came to visit us every 3 weeks and he said it would be great if we could be a family so he did spend time with our daughter and I. Then all of a sudden in july 2012 he stopped calling me and checking on our daughter she started school and he acted like he didn't care I have to take her to a specialist to help me figure out what kind of help she needs for her dis abilty last time I talked to him was in april for 5 minutes and he didn't even ask to talk to our daughter ! Anyway we were back together last yr and I had to find out on fb he had a new gf without telling me and she is so annoying likes everything he posts if I tag him in and
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by on Jul. 12, 2013 at 9:39 AM
When I tag him on photos she likes them too anyway when I. Do ask when is he goinf to see our daughter because she asks about him from time to time says where's my daddy I want my daddy to come stay at our house I tell him that and he just has ing so many excuses he doesn't have a good working car and he doesn't have time for our daughter it just frustrates me I never keep our daug ter from him and his mother but they never make and effort . Plus the thing that irratated me the most was he was flaunting pictures of him and his gf havin fun at a carnival having fun this yr I couldn't afford to take our daughter to the carnival I am a single mom but
by on Jul. 12, 2013 at 9:47 AM
I just wish he would be there for my daughter and I but I should know better he has 2 other daughters with 2 other women and he swt talks u to get what he wants then after that he doensnt have anything todo with u plus we r 9 yrs apart I am just lucky to have my daughter and I am all that she has and needs right now
by on Jul. 12, 2013 at 9:49 AM
Bump for later. Hang in there.
by on Jul. 12, 2013 at 9:54 AM

 Hang in there momma, I'm sure it is very frustrating.

by on Jul. 12, 2013 at 4:17 PM
Its hard when you love someone with all your heart and. Would do anything for them and t hey. Are un appreiatetive I am raising our daughter all by myself and never complain I am am always nice n respectful too him for my daughter and also I. Am respectful toward his mother my daug hters grandma .... you know I understand if someone is unsure their child is there's or not they don't want to spend a lot of time with that child but he wanted a paternity test and we got one and it came out he was her father I didn't need a test to prove it but I just wish he would step up and be a real man and quit searching for women when I am right here and I love him no matter what I am family person he obviously wants to be like his father and let the mothers raise hi daughters without him in our lives
by Bronze Member on Jul. 12, 2013 at 5:45 PM

Sweetie, I am so sorry for the crap you're dealing with. I worry about your daughter, it's not good that he's so randomly in her life. I'm sure it's breaking her heart. I wish I could offer you better advice but all I can say is be strong for your daughter and just let her know everyday how much you love her.hugs

by on Jul. 12, 2013 at 5:56 PM
My ex is the same. I really fell for him and once I got pregnant he just got very distant. I haven't heard from him in 5 months now and frankly I don't care anymore. I tried my best to keep him and his mom involved but I was doing it all. If they wanna see my son they can drive their pathetic lil butts 25 miles to see him. Just do your best to move on.
by on Jul. 12, 2013 at 6:26 PM
exactly u know my ex lives with his mom and. Her bf he claims he doesn't have a working car he only lives 2 hours away from my daughter and I. So he can go out and do everything for the girl and play daddie to her kids when his biological children get nothing ! From him all I get is excuses and I am to old for high school drama lol so I don't bother him I am not gonna sit around and wait for him I am not giving him a 3rd chance. Its very sad his own brother comments on pictures I post on fb he cares about my daughter but he hasn't met her yet
by on Jul. 12, 2013 at 6:37 PM
When she is 18 I will let her know about her father and she has 2 half sisters I will tell her she was 3 when she met him so she prob won't rember him much so it doesn't really effect her yet but she does notice kids with their daddies and say my daddie I miss my daddy I don't talk about him infront of her nor do I talk negaltive about him in front of her I respect her because he is still her dad I just like to get it out sometimes and get things off my chest thank goodness for cafemom
by on Jul. 13, 2013 at 7:03 AM

 Sometimes men just suck. Sorry mama, keep your head up. Things will get better in due time.

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