My daughter is 17 months and I share 50-50 joint phyiscal custody of her. She goes one week from Wednesday at 6 til Sunday at 6 and the next week from Thursday at 6 til Sunday at 6. The last two weeks he has sent me a text a couple hours after our daughter was picked up saying that her crotch is red. I give her a bath, a clean set of clothes and a clean diaper before she goes every time. I haven't seen any problems with her gentials and the last time he sent the text of her being red I told him to meet me at the ER to get it checked out to which he replied that it was fine he would put vaseline on her like he and his wife always do while she is there with them and they never have trouble with any redness in her gential area. How do I not let him get to me or what can I do to get him to stop, it is like he is trying to make a case against me to find me unfit.