When I was pregnant my ex wanted me to have an abortion. I told him no I could never do that. He was not happy and said some mean and hurtful things mostly via text. When my ds was born I texted him to let him know and his response was "I hope my name is not on anything". I text him a couple times a year just to make sure the number is still current in case I need to contact him in the event of a serious medical issue. My mother who was denied knowledge of my niece until she was nearly a year old kept telling me to try to contact ex's parents stating that grandparents had a right to know. I don't know them and they live on the other side of the country. When my ds was 18 months old I sent my ex one of the check in texts, I asked him if he had told his family about my ds and he said no and he never would, as far as he's concerned he and I have no child together. I got angry and decided to tell them. So I wrote a letter with pictures and created a Facebook page in my ds's name letting them know if they want contact with my son they can friend the Facebook page and I will post pics and updates for them. I found their address in an online phone directory and mailed the letter. I never got a reply, then a year later the letter came back "Return To Sender" and it was written on the envelope that they had moved. I checked the online directory and could no longer find a listing. Before mailing the letter I had searched Facebook and found my ex's family but the only one that I could message was his brother but I didn't. After I got the letter back and found no other address for the parents I decided to message the brother. I sent him a message asking if ex was his brother. Never got a response. That was more than a year ago and now my ds is almost 4. Today I got a notification in my email that I got a message on my sons Facebook account, it was my exes brother responding, he said "Just saw this message in my junk folder , I am his brother why do you ask ?" Now I don't know if I should respond and tell him. I know my ex will be pissed off if I do but I also think my ds deserves to know his roots and know his family if they want to know him. I don't want anything from them except love for my ds if they want to give it.
Would you tell them in my situation?
on Jul. 24, 2013 at 1:50 PM