Does my babys babysitter sound like she's over stepping her boundaries?
My 9 month old DD has started with her babysitter, whom has been a family friend for years. First two days, she was fine. Today, she cried on and off the whole time, and when I picked her up, the babysitter told me that when she's at home, to stay away from her as much as I can, especially when she cries. She said "She needs to learn to be away from you. You're only hurting her, not yourself, by always being near her."
I will NOT leave my daughter to cry (fit throwing is different...I'll let her calm down in her crib while I sit nearby, not looking at her, until she chills out), and after not being near her for hours a day, I'm not going to just let her sit alone.
She also has decided not to consult with me before doing anything with my daughter, such as taking her for a drive, giving her new foods, or (gag) rubbing green onion on her gums to "help with teething". She also has been caught using tap water and not the bottled water for my daughters bottles, and doesn't measure, just fills and pours in a random amount of formula. In the past, when she watched DD, she was told to call me at any time to ask for permission to take my daughter somewhere or if she could give her something. Why she thinks its a free for all now is beyond me.
I pay. Her $70 weekly, which is great, but that doesn't mean she can do what she wants. I begin school again this Friday, and I am completely ready to drop going back if the babysitter gets out of hand.
I plan on speaking with her about this tomorrow...how would you feel if your babysitter was like this?
oh, and to add:
The other day she said DD was crying, so she took her for a car ride. I leave her car seat with her every day, but she decided to take DD and sit in the front seat with her and drive around. I nearly ripped her head off when I heard.