Feeling overwhelmed, helpless and lost.
Im a divorced mom 3+ years and have four children. My support orders the ex to pay child support and maintenance for 8 years as I am unable to work until my daughter can take care of herself entirely with her type 1 diabetes, and insulin administration.
2 years ago the ex started to short me support and owed $5,000+ ...received a court hearing that he filed for a downward modification. In court the magistrate dismissed the case as the ex had no proof he had received a pay cut. He was denied and was told to payback the amount owed and go back to paying the amount that was ordered. The ex never paid back the back support, but went back to paying the ordered amount.
End of June 2013 my ex started shorting me support again. He claimed he got yet another "pay cut". I asked him to provide me proof. He told me it was not my business. I reminded him that he could not take it upon himself to just change an order of support and pay less or nothing at all. He told me to GFM.
July 9, I went to family court and filed a violation petition. I was told by the clerk that it can take 8-10 weeks before receiving a letter with a court date. We are at 8 weeks + now and still have not received anything. My ex is behind by $6484.00. I am struggling paying some bills, groceries, and necessities and had to cancel my Cobra coverage(which covered health insurance for myself) through his employer as it was almost $600.00/ month. THEN BOOM!!!! The ex tells me last week that he lost his job. He told me the children no longer will have health insurance and he's not sure if he will be able to collect unemployment. I emailed his HR and was only told that the children's insurance was to end Aug 31. WTF. I asked him: how am I supposed to buy my daughters diabetic supplies? How will she see her endocrinologist? How will I get her insulin pump supplies? Insulin? Test strips? glucagon? Not to mention the special food she needs to eat as she is not only diabetic but has celiac disease and needs to eat gluten-free??? His answer to me was "it's not his F'n problem". Well folks this is nothing new- he's never been that type of daddy who does, or shows affection, except when he has an audience. No surprise there...sure great he has a Bachelors Degree, and was VP and Director of his company....and who knows what the truth is about his job...and why wouldn't he receive unemployment? But I'm in panic mode! With school just about to start and less than $100.00 in my bank account. NOW MY QUESTION: do I need to wait for my court hearing date for the violation of petition that I filed OR should and can I file with Support Collection Unit? Do they help you file or apply for Medicaid or food benefits for my 4 children? Which do I do first??? How long does this all take?? I'm almost out of test strips for my daughter and I test her blood sugar every 2 hours - even when she is asleep. ANY SUGGESTIONS, support or advice PLEASE
Also the ex was supposed to keep in place his life insurance policy in place at all times for the children - he canceled policy 3 years ago. Was ordered to pay my father $200.00 per month to pay off a loan - which he now stopped paying. And was ordered to provide a vehicle to us (with me making payments )after the lease expired - which was also 3 years ago - and have no vehicle provided by him as the court ordered him to do so in the divorce.
Sorry for the lengthy post. In tears and am feeling hopeless of the uncertain.