Hello! So I am looking for some advice. I have 3 kids, ages 8 (boy), 7 (boy) and 4 (girl). Their father and I are almost divorced. It has been a long drawn out process. Approximately 4 years and through it all their dad has shown his true colors and is a liar. Their father and I do not communicate or co-parent well because he is completely unwilling. Their dad had a psychological evaluation and shows signs of being a sociopath with bi-polar symptoms. Now I am worried because my 7 year old is lying all the time and showing no remorse no matter what the "punishment" is. I have tried taking away his favorite toys, sent him to bed early, and of course we have talked. My problem is that when we talk, he tunes me out and shows blatant disrespect. When I raise my voice even a little he tells me that I am bullying him. Tonight when I caught him lying to me, he used the I just want my daddy and truth be told I lied to him saying that his dad would be upset about him lying but it is a normal course of action for his dad to lie. I have wished for a good co-parenting relationship but it is never going to happen. I am fighting an uphill battle, I know since morals and values are going to be learned from me with complete opposition when they are at their dad's. My other two kids do not have instances of lying often but my 7 year old is often. Can anyone recommend a good book about morals? I am not religious so I am not interested in using that as an avenue. Does anyone have experience with one parent being dishonest and one who is not? I am not perfect but I do know the difference between right and wrong. Any guidance or suggestions are truly appreciated!
on Sep. 8, 2013 at 8:18 PM