I coudn't hold it in anymore. This woman is so passive aggressive, always saying belittling things to my son, like "you want a haircut right? My friend at work saw your picture and thought you were a girl" when his hair wasn't even past his ears. I despise this woman. Always undermining me, ALWAYS.
Ds's dad lives with his (ds's) grandma, so whenever he goes for visitation he sees her. This past weekend, apparently she took him to get his hair cut, which doesn't seem like a big deal right? Except we've fought about this before, and I had said if it happened again, he wouldn't be going back. The problem is not the hair, it's the fact that she knows I hate it when she does it, nobody bothers telling me about it, much less asking, and they do this with everything. I just can't take it anymore. I told his dad that "All of our weekends are busy with extra curriculars until November, so unless you want to drive your fat @ss up here to see him play soccer, we'll see you in the winter." Which of course turned into a big fight because I had an obvious attitude. I have reached back out to his dad and said that he can see ds anytime he wants to drive up here, I'll even reimburse him for gas, which he won't settle for.
I know I'm in the wrong for this being a big deal, but if I can't trust them to tell me about little stuff, what about the big stuff? That woman has no idea of his medical or emotional history or anything. I'm still furious. She screwed her own kids up enough, she can keep her filthy lying hands off of mine. He can see her, but not without my supervision.
"Parent" is a verb.