My husband and I split up a year ago and he moved 5,000 miles away and hasn't seen our son since. It's been a long, painful road and several times the ex has told our nine-year-old son things like "mommy is evil and taking all my money so i can't fly you out here to see me". He talks bad about me to our son every chance he gets. Well, DS has had enough and just doesn't want to talk to his dad on the phone anymore. Every now and then I will convince him to talk to him.
Anyways, last night I made DS answer his dad's phone call so he had a little attitude about it (can't force the kid to do anything!) and the ex blew up and told him he was a selfish brat and he needed to send the phone back to him (ex sent DS the phone months ago) and also send back the school clothes, shoes and backpack he just sent him because he doesn't deserve them. DS felt so bad he decided he wants to send his dad two of his arrowheads that he LOVES because he says he "owes him" something.
DS won't talk about how he feels about his dad. He just says he's mad and that's it. Ex says I should force DS to answer his phone when he calls, that he shouldn't have a choice because he sent him the phone (I pay for the service).
Also, I should mention that the clothes, shoes, etc that he just sent him are the first things he's sent him in a year. He doesn't pay child support or anything. Now he wants to be regarded as a hero because he sent his child something he needed! And then he wants him to send the stuff back because he's not answering his calls!
My question is, should I "make" my son answer his phone when his dad calls?