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Posted by on Sep. 11, 2013 at 12:04 AM
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It's been 2 weeks since I left my boyfriend of 7 years with my 2 year old and 6 month old.  We were talking daily maintaining a friendship , but that became very hard for me once i found out he's already attempting to woo other girls in the city he's moving to because he "misses" his family. I told him i can't be friends with him right now and  that i feel we shouldn't be talking at all because there is still that feeling of it might work out since he's gonna be living here in less than a month. Is it wrong i feel so betrayed by him talking to other girls? I guess i feel it's just been 2 weeks it seems so soon to me, and only a few days ago he was saying he still sees us being together in the future...so what the hell. I left him because of drinking and his selfishness in helping raise the kids. I begged him to move with me for years so i can be closer to my family support. And now that we are gone he's finally trying to get his shit together a little to late too. Except he's still have those late nights at the bars with the internet ladies...i guess it's silly. I don't know I'm very hurt and sad that i'm not talking to him tonight.

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easinpc
by Gold Member on Sep. 11, 2013 at 8:46 AM

group hug

hayliedlr
by JoAnna on Sep. 11, 2013 at 8:48 AM

well 7 years is a lot of history.  It's not wrong to feel the way you do.  Sometimes it takes a kick in the butt to wake up though.

steviechick
by on Sep. 11, 2013 at 8:52 AM
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Try 26 years.  That's how long I was with my ex when he decided to sneak behind my back, download porn on the internet, find a tramp to chase around and create two kids with her. 

I agree, sometimes it takes a kick in the butt to wake-up.  Had I known about my ex's behavior I would have kicked him to the curb a long time ago and saved the hurt and pain. 

 

Robsessed98
by on Sep. 11, 2013 at 12:12 PM
It's normal to not be happy about him being with other women if you still care about him, but you left him, so he's not betraying you at all. You can't have it both ways. It's best for you if you don't talk to him so much until you can deal with it, but don't let it interfere with him and his kids.
amonkeymom
by Gold Member on Sep. 11, 2013 at 4:35 PM

Sounds to me like you did the right thing.

v2011
by on Sep. 11, 2013 at 6:14 PM

His wooing other women so soon is a pretty good reminder of why you left.  He isn't trying to get you back, he's using your breakup as an excuse to get his rocks off.  How much you wanna bet he gives those other chicks a big sob story so they feel bad for him?  

Of course you are gonna grieve the relationship, but he doesn't deserve you. And you don't deserve that kind of treatment.  

cjsmom1
by Platinum Member on Sep. 11, 2013 at 9:33 PM

It sounds like you did what's best for you and your kids. Him seeing other women will hurt you, especially since it's so soon. Things will get easier.

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