BD went two months only seeing my DD three times, then went two months straight not seeing her or asking about her, then he came by two Sundays in a row. He then begins to act like he's been a loving and caring father even though he hasn't put in any work. It's been nearly a month since he's seen her. No court order, and I'm very flexible with visits. I welcome him to come build a relationship with her, and even though the visits are at my house, I sit back and don't interfere with his visit unless he asks for help. I watch tv, get food...pretty much make myself as invisible to him as possible.
The last two visits we had set up, he cancelled. One when I simply asked him what time he was coming because he never told me. He got mad, said he would come another time to give me time to do whatever I had to do. Oookay? The other, I wasn't completely sure what time I'd be home, and he understood that. He asked that I at least let him come before two because he had work at 3. The day of the visit, I cancelled my plans and text BD that he could come at noon (he usually stays for maybe an hour), and to let me know by 11 if he was coming. He text me at 10:30 saying he was doing laundry and that he could visit another time,
I'm done being flexible with him. Done. He claims she's everything to him, but he only pays child support. Hasn't changed a diaper, made a bottle, bathed her, dressed her...not a damn thing.