I am not new to this board, just a new account because the old one was sending me spam and I stopped coming up here because I didnt want my ex knowing I use this site. Anyway, I got back with my ex over the summer and I didnt want to. Prior to that, he was a POS...barely saw his kids and didnt want to pay cs. I tried to be friendly with him because thats the only way I could get him to spend time with the kids. He gave me an ultimatum to be with him or things would go back the way they were...meaning he would be a POS father again. Stupid me thinking about the kids and no myself got back with him. The entire time I was paying for everything, he would use me for my car, ask me to pay for something for him say he would pay me back on his payday and never did, would eat up my food and not pay for any of it, never kept the kids by himself, when it was time to take them somewhere he'd never come with us...it was like he was mooching! And he was the one working this summer not me. So I fell into a big hole which I have to dig myself out now. But damn how can you still be a single mom in a relationship with the dad. Makes no damn sense. WHy should I have to take my son to the barbershop? Why should I have to find my own way to fix my tire when it went flat...he left me and the the kids because he "couldnt fix it" and I had to drive on rim to a tire shop. Why should I have to pay for everything when he was the one working? I was living off of my last paycheck. Thank god CS threatened his job about garnishments and Im finally getting it. But I eventually got fed up and left. I am so happy now. The only thing I need to do is fix myself financially and I will be fine. How can a man live like that? You are with the mother of your kids and you act like I am some random girl you met and these arent your kids. He also tried to move in with me. Now that I wasnt stupid enough to do. I am in the process of maybe getting put out and Im going to move you in when you cant even save 20 bucks from your paycheck to help out with something...anything....no thanks. I am so glad I left and as much as we women say we wont go back...I have no reason to. He is a poor excuse for a man and father. All he did was bring me down. I was doing better before I started being friendly to him. Maybe I shouldve kept it like that...it's back to that now already and we have only been broken up and a week. He wont call them. Hes already told me not to contact him. He is already making plans to get them and cancelling them...its like just go away smh....sorry had to vent again lol. My friends are all too busy in their own worlds to listen.
on Sep. 22, 2013 at 7:57 AM