SO very NASTY. What would you do? *edited to actually add message* **Update**
So, I went over to my old place to get some of my stuff out since I need more of my clothes as the weather is getting cooler and I wanted to collect some of the baby stuff so I have it for the one due in early December.
Let me tell you, I was floored by the condition of the house. It reeks of dog and dog pee, there is stuff everywhere, the sink is disgusting and there are dirty dishes everywhere, I found dried, crusty dog poop in what was my son's nursery while looking for some of his leggings, the bathrooms are gross, I don't think the sheets on the beds have been changed since I left back at the beginning of May, and all the clothes I brought back smell of the stench in the house.
I keep our 2 year old during the week (he gets him 2-3 evenings to visit, but he sleeps with me during the week and visits dad every other weekend. He should have no reason not to have a reasonably clean house and clean up the messes from the dogs and our son. I manage to keep my place clean (not clutter free) even with having my son the majority of the time. Messes might take a while to get cleaned up, but they do get cleaned up and not left for MONTHS. What would you do? He always has some lame ass excuse, but dammit, run the vacuum wipe shit down!!!
Monday I went by to see his place and he had cleaned up quite a bit since Saturday. Yesterday we went together to put the old dog down (she had been with us almost as long as we had been together as he got her about a month after we started dating) and he later thanked me for going with him and for helping him see that it was time to let her go. I know he is struggling with the divorce in general and I think the dog was one of the few things left from our 13 years together. I hope that not having a dog peeing every 15 minutes helps him get on top of the house and the state of it.