Assigned to my custody case has filed her report. I got a copy of it yesterdy. Her findings were that my allegations of domestic violence were CREDIBLE. His denyal of the abuse and alligations of my neglect of the children are NOT credible.
She feels that he uses the children constantly in an attempt to control me and because he is angry that I seperated from him. That the children and I both exhibit the behaviors of domestic violence survivors.
She also pointed out that I am doing my best to creat a stable enviornment for the children where they learn repsonsibility, respect and selfreliance. This is all dispite the efforts of my ex to sabotage the relationship with my children.
She also feels my boyfriend is doing his best to create a relationship with my boys while doing it on their terms. She acknowledged that my ex is trying to use the children to hinder our relationship by making dispariaging remarks about myself and my boyfriend. Again, focusing on our past relationship and his anger that it ended, and NOT focusing on the children.
She recomends that he get the children only 3 weekends a month and every other holiday. If there is a 5th weekend in the month...I get them. She is also making him pick the kids up from school on the fridays he is supposed to have them and drop them off at school that following Monday so I have NO CONTACT with his (YES!!!)
Oh and is wages are being garnished for child support
If the judge goes with her recomendations, which I really really hope he does. Then the last 3 years of fighting, of the name calling, of the hoops he has made me hump thru to provide for my children, the documentation, organizing, saving texts have all been worth it.
I really wanted the system to show him that he can't use the people around him because he is nothing more than a crybaby little bitch! :D