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How do you get by if you lose a job?

Posted by on Sep. 27, 2013 at 11:25 AM
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Please no bashing! I feel stuck!

I haven't worked in a week as I was let go due to not being able to comply with a forced schedule change to work until 11pm, putting me to be home by midnight (I worked a good paying job far from home). I'm a single mom (of course, or else I wouldnt be in this group). I was struggling as it was because of the reduced hours at work, but I was making it work. I was used to bringing home $900+ twice a month (900 per check, semi monthly) then with reduced hours I was lucky to get $700 each pay check. (this includes after taxes and medical insurance was taken out). That was still good money, but the gas to get there and back was sucking me dry.


Now, my boyfriend that has moved in with me has been off of work all month, battling his FMLA paperwork with the doctors. He has a pacemaker and Friday he had to go to the heart specialist about possibly needing a stint put in. Luckily he didn't have to have that, but the proceedure for the heart cath put him off of work for another 3 days. He finally went back to work, thankfully!

With two car payments, daycare, gas and food - I feel lost! Now the electric bill is due and they gave me an extension. The paycheck I received on the 20th was only 60 hours, where I normally get 90 hours had they not been reduced. Plus, they shorted me 3 hours, which should have been taken care because I addressed that to them as soon as I noticed. They were good and handing out papers before each check to insure our hours were correct as sometimes (more times than not) the computer systems go down. I had $600 and they went fast! I had to pay my car, car insurance, and daycare. I had to pay for his medication (as he's had no income) for his heart.

I just want to know - who else has gone through this and how did you survive?

BTW- I get no child support from my son's bio father. He has never been in the picture and getting him to show up to court has been a losing battle.

I went to a place in town that helps needy families with food and clothing. They also offer an assistance with utility bills, but I'm afraid to go up there.

I have been hitting the pavement like there is no tomorrow in search of a job. I have even gone to the Goodwill Career Solutions center and they have been helping me with a resume and sending me job leads. I'm leaving in a few minutes to go to a couple jobs they sent me last night. 

Even before being cut loose from this job, I was applying for part time positions just to make up for lost hours. I hate that this town I live in offers very few jobs. All the jobs are in other towns miles away. The job I had was 52 miles, one direction. I want something closer, but if I have to drive that far for a full time job I will do it again.

by on Sep. 27, 2013 at 11:25 AM
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virginiamama71
by Carrie on Sep. 27, 2013 at 11:33 AM

 Did you apply for unemployment?

CrystalYaris
by Member on Sep. 27, 2013 at 11:42 AM

I did not. I've been so wrapped up in finding a job and dealing with making sure doctor appointments are tended to I haven't had that cross my mind. I will do that today! I think the minimum is I've had to be working 9 months this year, and I hit just barely over that.

Quoting virginiamama71:

 Did you apply for unemployment?


virginiamama71
by Carrie on Sep. 27, 2013 at 11:48 AM

 I hope you will be able to get this. It will help until something else (hopefully better) comes thru for you.

Quoting CrystalYaris:

I did not. I've been so wrapped up in finding a job and dealing with making sure doctor appointments are tended to I haven't had that cross my mind. I will do that today! I think the minimum is I've had to be working 9 months this year, and I hit just barely over that.

Quoting virginiamama71:

 Did you apply for unemployment?


 

virginiamama71
by Carrie on Sep. 27, 2013 at 11:50 AM
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 Also contact your local dept of social services. Ask if they have a Work Resource center and if they do fid out when do they have job fairs.

It is getting close to the holiday shopping season so alot of retail stores may be hiring.

Even if it is temporary it is something and you can always use them for a reference later.

CrystalYaris
by Member on Sep. 27, 2013 at 11:54 AM

Me too. The job leads I have that I'm seeing about today are for a clerk at the nursing home (I have clerical experience and medical - so I hope that puts my foot in the door). Also a bank in town is hiring for a teller. I am also stopping by the career center about a job that pays well and is 40+ hours. I at least want to check it out. I know someone that works there. It's pouring chemicals, so it's hazard pay. Not sure I really want to do that with a little one (3 year old) but my neighbor says it's cake work and he's been there for 15 years.

Quoting virginiamama71:

 I hope you will be able to get this. It will help until something else (hopefully better) comes thru for you.

Quoting CrystalYaris:

I did not. I've been so wrapped up in finding a job and dealing with making sure doctor appointments are tended to I haven't had that cross my mind. I will do that today! I think the minimum is I've had to be working 9 months this year, and I hit just barely over that.

Quoting virginiamama71:

 Did you apply for unemployment?




CrystalYaris
by Member on Sep. 27, 2013 at 11:56 AM

We do. I have been making two trips a week there, plus the career solutions another two days. I've been seeing online through the state website for Dollar Tree and Dollar general hiring. Plus, we have a new Dollar General opening at the other side of town (that I put in an app for yesterday). Something is always better than nothing.

Quoting virginiamama71:

 Also contact your local dept of social services. Ask if they have a Work Resource center and if they do fid out when do they have job fairs.

It is getting close to the holiday shopping season so alot of retail stores may be hiring.

Even if it is temporary it is something and you can always use them for a reference later.


virginiamama71
by Carrie on Sep. 27, 2013 at 12:31 PM
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 right

Quoting CrystalYaris:

 Something is always better than nothing.

steviechick
by on Sep. 27, 2013 at 1:32 PM
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Please don't be afraid to ask for help.  Go back to the assistance office and get the help you and your family needs.  You mentioned looking for work - apply now at every place that is hiring.  I'm sure you will get hired soon. 

CrystalYaris
by Member on Sep. 27, 2013 at 4:48 PM

Thank you =) I just get nervous and shy a little when put in a situation to have assistance. I don't know if it's because of the people that work in the DHS office. I feel weird being there. 

Quoting steviechick:

Please don't be afraid to ask for help.  Go back to the assistance office and get the help you and your family needs.  You mentioned looking for work - apply now at every place that is hiring.  I'm sure you will get hired soon. 


CrystalYaris
by Member on Sep. 27, 2013 at 4:54 PM

Also, I believe I had a good day at job searches. I went to a nursing home that needs some clerks and put in a position. I filled out the application entirely and handed them my resume. I went to a couple of the dollar stores and did an application online for WalMart.

Quoting steviechick:

Please don't be afraid to ask for help.  Go back to the assistance office and get the help you and your family needs.  You mentioned looking for work - apply now at every place that is hiring.  I'm sure you will get hired soon. 


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