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Do I have to have his dad on birth certificate?

Posted by on Oct. 3, 2013 at 5:11 PM
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Please don't judge me first off. I'm doing the best I can. I had my son almost 2 years ago. I left his dad when I was pregnant because I caught him doing drugs and he refused to seek help. I had to get a restraining order after that because he threatened to kill me. During this time I found out he had been extremely abusive to his ex wife and stepchildren as well. Towards the end of my pregnancy, my ex husband and I tried to reconcile. We have 2 girls together and we wanted to make our family work. My ex husband and I have come to the conclusion that it will never work. He is a cheater and can't remain faithful. He had put his name in my sons birth certificate but if we aren't together, I don't want him to be responsible for my son. I am going to court to have his name removed but I don't want to put his bio dad's name on the certificate. When my son is older and wants to know his dad, I will arrange it but for now, I won't put my sons safety in the hands of an addict. I don't want food stamps, or child support so please don't attack me. Do I have to put his bio dad's name on the birth certificate? I'm in Michigan if it makes a difference. I have been researching and asking around but so far, I've just found a bunch of rude people who really don't have an answer. My daughter is terminally ill and receives Medicaid and SSI. if I don't put a fathers name on my sons birth certificate, will it affect my daughters benefits?
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cupcake_mom
by on Oct. 3, 2013 at 5:14 PM
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I don't think you do. But I'm not 100% on that
Jenn8604
by Silver Member on Oct. 3, 2013 at 5:15 PM
I left the dad spot blank on my ds' bc here in IL.
1uniquemommy86
by Member on Oct. 3, 2013 at 5:46 PM
I understand, or at least think I understand, I would never be able to get any kind of public assistance for my son without naming a father. Which is fine. But, do you have other kids? If so, does it affect them? Like, are they still able to get state insurance?


Quoting Jenn8604:

I left the dad spot blank on my ds' bc here in IL.

MIMIBRIE
by Jayme on Oct. 3, 2013 at 6:09 PM

 I left my ydd's blank in the father spot and my older girls still receive medicaid with no questions asked

1uniquemommy86
by Member on Oct. 3, 2013 at 7:03 PM
Thank u! That's a huge relief. I don't get any state assistance except for my daughter insurance because of her terminal illness. I've been extremely stressed out not knowing if she would qualify if i don't name my sons father. It's a huge stress gone to know I don't have to sacrifice my sons safety for my daughters medical insurance.


Quoting MIMIBRIE:

 I left my ydd's blank in the father spot and my older girls still receive medicaid with no questions asked


lambc10674
by New Member on Oct. 3, 2013 at 7:43 PM
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I didnt put the bio dad on the birth certificate. It shouldnt affect the benefits.
Jenn8604
by Silver Member on Oct. 3, 2013 at 8:10 PM
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I had WIC he's 5 now so he is too old. I also had fs until they screwed it up and didn't put down I had a job, so they "over paid" me. Still have the medical card. I live w my mom so I didn't try for housing.
He's an only child and perfectly fine without a dad.
Quoting 1uniquemommy86:

I understand, or at least think I understand, I would never be able to get any kind of public assistance for my son without naming a father. Which is fine. But, do you have other kids? If so, does it affect them? Like, are they still able to get state insurance?





Quoting Jenn8604:

I left the dad spot blank on my ds' bc here in IL.

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Sabrina2013
by on Oct. 3, 2013 at 8:31 PM
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I put unknown on her birth certificate so the father part is blank and I still get medical insurance and food stamps for her

Sister_Someone
by Member on Oct. 3, 2013 at 8:51 PM
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No you don't. Most states will let you leave it blank, and on the off chance they don't, you can always put unknown. My son's says unknown, even though I do in fact know who's his father, but I want nothing to do with that sorry excuse for a human being.

cjsmom1
by Gold Member on Oct. 3, 2013 at 9:18 PM
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I don't think it will

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