My ex has PTSD and depression...and we are going to court for custody in a week! Please, advice!
Ok, heres the deal. I waited for my husband to get home from afghanistan for almost a year. When he got home we got married. He abused me verbally and also had breakdowns. He would slam himself on the floor and just bawl his eyes out and hold his head when he got mad....things like that. He was diagnosed with PTSD at the VA. Hes unstable. Hes also had depression since he was 12, threatened to take a knife to himself, but didnt. All because he couldnt go hunting and skip a day of school. Alright, after we got married thats when it started getting crazy. He would blam me for not working hard enough, not being a good wife, not cleaning up the house right....etc. I was pregnant at the time and VERY sick. I was puking all the time. He got mad once because i left CRUMBS on the counter that were hardly even noticable! We were going to counseling. Trust me, I've tried. He wouldnt touch my stomach at all when i was pregnant and he told me that all i can comprehend is the baby. What is that?!
Anyways, long story very short, he kicked me out when i was about six months pregnant. I moved back to my parents. He got the divorce papers already, even though just like two weeks ago he was talking to me about working things out. but get this, then he tells me that he thinks its best if we just wait to talk about getting back together until we are done with the child support and the custody sit down with our lawyers. He said he believes we should wait because the sit downs with our lawyers are only going to get us mad at eachother and he thinks its best to wait until after. Tell me ladies, does that make sense to you???
He told me that he believes we just needed to get away from eachother for awhile. (with him having PTSD and me being pregnant and sick and crying because he wouldnt even show me much effection at all. We barely kissed, we didnt even sleep in the same bed at night and we were married! This was all right after he got home from overseas.) Now, he said he wants to wait to work it out. Hes giving me the run around it seems. Im a strong woman, and trust me, I would be there for my husband in a heartbeat. I did marry the man, I mean, that says a lot..
anyways now we are going for custody in a week and I'm so nervous. One reason being his PTSD and depression and hes also on nightmare medication from the VA. And another reason is becasue I just found out that we moved away (out of state.) to OHIO. Please give me your advice ladies. What would you say for custody? I have my lawyer and we are going through everything 3 days before our sit down, but i dont want to miss anything.