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It's been two days I thought they were going to school and they never made it there. I think their dad has them, but the police wont do anything because he has visitation rights so they are saying my kids ran away to him. He wont answer the phone or the door, it's considered a civil matter. Filed papers with the court when it happened for an emergency hearing, have heard nothing. I swing from being so worried I feel like I can't even move to so much anger, to pain. I just want them back. How can our system be so broken that my kids can be gone for days and no one seems to care? I don't know what to do
I wanted to thank you ladies for all the repsonses. I posted looking for ideas, I am sorry for not responding. I took the ideas and ran.
My children are home, they showed up on the front porch this weekend. They are 15 and 12 (some were asking their age).
Some of the things I did was put up missing posters in my neighborhood and in their dad's neighborhood, I went door to door, I called his family members, I called the national center for missing and exploited children and I called the clerk at the court house.
I called the police over and over. I had a hell of a time getting them to look for the boys. Part if it was their ages, they wanted to treat them as runaways, the other part was the lack of concern of their father. This led them to beleive they were with their dad, so they concluded since he has some visitation that they were safe and therefore a low priority.
I filed an emergency motion which took days to even be looked at, meanwhile his family is ignoring me, wont answer the doors or the phones. Finally I filed a restraining order siting educational neglect. Since the boys had, by then, missed several days of school. Unfortunately, the judge knows me and the case well. He said the father should be at the fore front of looking for the boys and granted the restraining order.
It took 3 days for my ex to be served and that very day my boys showed up on the front porch.
They flat out refused to tell me, the police or the school where they were. All I got from my youngest son was that he did not like it.
We go back to court next week. I'm pretty close to losing my job now because of all of the missed work. My bosses do not care about the situation. I've started to have anxiety attacks when my kids are not around me. (Today on the way to work, yesterday at the store while they were home with my boyfriend) I guess I'm worried they will disappear again.