No... But what is it you want to do about it? It's his decision to make
Yep! My daughter's father couldn't care less about her, but he doesn't pay for anything and we don't have any contact with him.
It's a rough realization to come to terms with, for sure ... but I think that him saying he's just that greedy is him really not dealing with his own decision or the negative emotions he might be feelling ... or he's just a total douche bag, lol. Either way, it sucks for you and your child, but the other moms are right, there's not much you can do about it.My son's father begged for three weekends a month for visitation, but he doesn't use any of them. We've had fight after fight about this because of the discrepency between visitation time and child support amount, but I've come to realize that I just need to step up and be more of a man than him. That all said, I've managed to supplement his absence by giving his visitation time to his parents instead. My son's grandparents pick him up, drop him off, and keep him for the allotted visitation time, two weekends a month, sometimes three, and even pitch in with buying whatever my son needs including food and clothes and over-spoil him for birthdays and christmas, lol. I'm really lucky to have them because they provide a link to my son's father (who tends to visit one night every other week), but without abrubt interruption and unneccessary strife for my son over his father. He's only 6, but he's really starting to notice that his dad just isn't as involved as he used to be, and his grandparents tend to help distract from that a bit -- for the time being.Anyway, this arrangement has been a big help to me, so maybe this is something you could try, or maybe it'll spark an idea in your brain of some creative way to handle this situation. Good luck!
he says he wants to be but fights about paying and since Cs and visitation are two separate issues I can't hold one against the other. He doesn't get why I make a big issue about his safety. He has even come to visits on very little sleep and then he drives our son to his house. I have offered to bring him to him but he won't allow it.
Quoting edhmom114:he says he wants to be but fights about paying and since Cs and visitation are two separate issues I can't hold one against the other. He doesn't get why I make a big issue about his safety. He has even come to visits on very little sleep and then he drives our son to his house. I have offered to bring him to him but he won't allow it.
My ex choose not to see the kids at all.
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