Question: Whose last name?
Total Votes: 28
So the shortest version of my story that I can give: I moved 3,000 miles away to try working things out with my ex after we found out I was pregnant. He decided a week before Thanksgiving that he no longer wanted to try working on our relationship, and told me I needed to move out of our house (technically the lease was in his name and not mine), so I did and moved 1,100 miles away which is where my closest friends/family are since I didn't know a single other person where we were living (and why the hell would I stay to build a new life from scratch in a place where the only person I knew was kicking me out at 5mos pregnant???)
I am really upset with him about breaking a huge promise to me over the weekend, and I just want some feedback..... I feel like I was JUST starting to get over the fact that he broke his promise that we'd try therapy before giving up on us (cuz he knew how badly I wanted the whole family idea thing to work)... and then he drops this other bomb on me over the weekend and I feel like I can no longer be the nice guy to bend over backwards and be willing to negotiate child support/visitation in his favor peacefully because I seem to keep getting the short end of the stick when I'm nice and give him the benefit of the doubt.
So with that being said, I'm seriously starting to question how much of a father he's going to be to this child... and I started asking myself if I should just plan on giving the baby my last name. Originally I was planning on giving the baby his last name... and then a friend pointed out the other day I'm going to have a headache when it comes time for school and anything "official" that I'll have to prove I'm his mom, etc.
In the end, BEST case scenario (*if* he even follows through on this promise) he'll fly here once a month to see the baby... do you think that warrants the baby getting his last name?