Long story short my ex has decided to no longer be involved in his dd's (we'll call her LK) life until she's an adult. Until recently I thought part of it was him being his usual stubborn self and not willing to compromise, but boy was I wrong. I reached out to the mom (we'll call her MN) last year because I felt bad that our kids didn't know each other and wanted them to have a relationship. About six months or so after that my ex started talking to LK again (he's been in and out of her life since she was born). He sent money for summer camp, sent school clothes, and was going to go out there for Christmas. When he sent the clothes all MN said was "well don't get xyz any more because she doesn't like it" no thank you or anything else. When he said he was going to visit for Christmas with his mom MN flipped out saying horrible things about him and his family. MN gets the Chritsmas stuff and posts on FB "Clothes for Christmas. Wow", so what there's over $200 worth of clothes and there's toys. After everything MN said last week he's decided he can't do it any more. MN was even messaging me saying him and his family are "drug addicted, ghetto, prostitutes" and that her and her dd are so much better then everyone, but in the next sentence was complaining that his family doesn't even know her (MN). Meanwhile two months ago MN was saying how upset she was that no one is involved in her LK's life. He's really upset by this and has decided that he won't go through all this again. I truly hope when LK is an adult he talks to her and explains the whole story because the mom is playing a helpless victim and is telling LK all these things (including that my son is the reason he's not there for her). MN's game playing and attitude are the reason no one is involved.