So just wondering how you ladies feel about the subject....From your experience ....Do you believe that maybe if your little one's father wasnt around at all it would be easier for your little one rather than him ''being around' and continiuously dissapointing them?........... My little girl's father has two other kids and come to find out ... he's been a deadbeat to them... in fact his younger one's mother has passed away and he doesn't have custody and does not pay child support.... He rarely calls ... rarely visits... and his oldest is not shy about talking about what a lousy father he is and how much he's let her down.........So I obviously can't expect anything greater for my daughter ... we've already started off very badly... he's been MIA for a couple months already and she's barely 4 months old...so ... what do you think? Is a deadbeat daddy better than no daddy ? or is no daddy better than a deadbeat daddy?